Category Archives: Spiritual healing

Making affirmations work for you

I’m reading this book right now about self talk. It’s a topic I love because what we say to ourselves influences what happens to us next in everything from spiritual healing to random stuff such as choosing new clothes.

The trouble is, we’re not always aware of what we’re saying to ourselves! The inner chatter goes on subconsciously and whilst we might think we’re taking no notice, our subconscious minds are taking it all on board.

This is why affirmations are so amazing at turning our talk (and in turn our experiences) around. You don’t have to take my word for it; quantum physics proves this if you care to explore the topic.

Affirmations work in two ways. First, they let us control the beliefs we feed ourselves which gives us a chance to choose more positively and set our intentions up right and secondly, when our minds tell us they are resisting the affirmation by pushing us to not believe or to reject what we are saying, it gives us the opportunity to heal the negativity coming up.

People go wrong with affirmations because they expect a quick fix. In reality, every negative belief has had potential decades to strengthen and therefore needs a lot of undoing.

So if you are trying to believe you are wealthy for example, it may not be enough to declare yourself rich. Instead, you might need to heal your worthiness, your belief in your value, your belief in your ability to earn and contribute, your belief that money is good… there could be any number of reasons why you struggle initially to identify with a wealthy person.

It’s not enough to be positive, we have to heal the rest too.

What are you affirming right now? Let me know what’s not working and whether I can help you feel more clarity. x

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How to receive spiritual guidance

Do you ever need a creative hit or a solution to something? Because I do, and when I do, I ask for it!

I never sit for hours expecting results without opening up, and I’d love to share with you how I receive the guidance I need without wasting time in inaction.

To get into receiving mode I first meditate, then I envision cleansing white light beaming straight to my heart and also in through the back of my neck and through the crown of my head. In this state I ask spirit for what I need.


Next, I either light a candle to sit quietly for a little longer, journal my questions and allow answers to flow, or I go for a walk.

Finally, I believe the solutions are coming. They may come instantly through the journal, or they may take a day or two and show up via a person or an inspired idea which seemingly comes from nowhere. But no matter how long it takes, I know that spirit are on my side and that when the time is right, my guidance is coming.

I find that many people seeking answers are seeking them because they aren’t open. They believe ideas are their own. I’m here to tell you that they’re not and that they are just flowing through you! To receive inspiration, we just have to be open to receiving it and ready to jump into action when it gets here.

You’ll know it’s right by how good it feels πŸ™‚

So try relaxing when you need your next inspiring hit. It will come to you, but only if you let it!

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How to recall past lives

Everything we do is shaped by who we are, but who we are is shaped by more than one lifetime. We have all sorts of issues we carry over into new lives, and all of these things need healing!


I am reading a really wonderful book by Denise Linn at the moment and she suggests looking at what you are drawn to for signs of your past lives. What do you love eating? Which countries or styles of dress pull you? Which eras of history or jobs interest you? Denise Lynn believes these things offer us clues to our past.

When we have these things down, she then suggests going into meditation and envisioning ourselves taking a trip to our past lives which we can do by imagining ourselves walking through a tunnel or over a bridge into our past. There, we will be shown what we need to see. If meditation is tricky for you, she also suggests declaring your intention to dream your past life as you fall asleep, and to remember it as you write notes in the morning.

It’s easy to fear our imaginations will kick in here, but we can tell the difference between imagination and memories by the way we feel as we explore. A past memory is something which feels a lot more certain than the frantic, questioning of ego. It’s a case of exploring though, and learning to trust your feelings.

I know in one past life I was a nun whose voice was suppressed, and that the Irish countryside pulls me despite never having been there. I also love the Victorian era, as well as Medieval England.

What pulls you? What do you know about your past lives?

Isn’t it fascinating that we know more than we think we know?!

Let me know what you discover! Comments always welcome πŸ™‚

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Working with forgiveness

I am working towards forgiving two people in my life right now and I say working towards because I feel many of us expect miracles when it comes to forgiving. We expect to declare that it’s all forgotten, and then wonder why we’re still quietly festering and can’t let it go.

Forgiveness lightens our load, frees us, and gives us the opportunity to feel relief as light floods us. Forgiving means we aren’t wasting time feeling anger which wrecks our bodies, or taking time away from positive thoughts which could actually help us progress in life if we paid attention to what our inner guidance wants us to know.

But forgiveness isn’t an instant occurrence and in my experience, it’s a challenging thing to attempt which feels harder the closer the person is to us!

Instead, forgiveness is a choice we make. It’s a road we choose to take and like any journey, it happens step by step.

We constantly have to remind ourselves of our forgiveness choice, and let the issues heal layer by layer. It doesn’t happen overnight, but each time we come back to forgiveness, we heal a little more.

Cord cutting can help with letting issues and even people go. See my Archangel Michael post if you need guidance, Or check out Karl Gray’s book on releasing below if you need a little more. Karl Gray is the go-to angel expert, and anything he writes is awesome πŸ™‚



If you are in the middle of trying to forgive somebody right now, please don’t stress. You’ve made the decision to try to heal this part of you, and it may just take a little time. Go easy on yourself, you are doing the best you can.

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What an empath really is!

I have a confession to make.

I see the world and it’s mother declaring themselves empathic, and I just want to shout!

Because we have got to a stage in the spiritual shift where it’s become cool to declare you ‘Feel all of the feels’, ‘Can’t go into busy places because of feeling overwhelmed’, and that you ‘See through the other person’s bulls**t’.

And whilst that might make you sensitive, it doesn’t necessarily make you empathic.

Empaths take on EVERYTHING from EVERYONE unless they are very, very good at grounding, healing and releasing. What this means is this: If you think you are empathic but haven’t been doing these things, you are very likely very ill or very mad. No joke! What I’ve seen is that natural empaths don’t tend to know they have a title… they are simply working in jobs like teaching and nursing, and quietly making a massive difference.

But if you think you’re an empath and want to claim the title, then you have work to do!

●Sensitivity develops before empathy does and your progression is dependent on whether you’re ready to put the work in, and whether you’re ready to go where spirit wants you to work.

● Empaths connect with spiritual guidance all of the time because they have been given the job of healing others in order to heal the world. Make sure you are connecting, and actively working to make a difference.

● When you feel all the energy, separate the good and bad, work out what is coming from where, ask spirit for help in helping these people if they want the help, and release the energy. If you can’t release it, ask spirit what you need to do.

● Quite often you’ll have physical pain that doesn’t belong to you. You need to work with it, as you’re taking it on to soothe another person. Always ask ‘Is this mine?’

● Know that you work for spirit. Commit to it. There’s no point in being empathic if you don’t use it to be the difference.’

● Ground ALL of the time, otherwise this work will take you out. Cleanse, too. Your energy needs to be clear not only to help yourself, but so that when new feels come in, you know where it’s coming from and whether you need to heal it, learn from it or release it.

● Cut back on the drinking and the junk food. People need you well. Sleep as many hours in a night as you can.

● Animals will ask for your help too! The bad leg you have? That might be pain you’re taking on for your dog! You have to be centred and aware as much as possible so that you can hear spirit when your guides connect you with the source of your feels. It IS exhausting! Be compassionate though β™‘

● The upsetting news report you’ve just watched? It’s not there to hurt you, it’s there to MOVE you! How are you going to heal that pain? Support the victims? Donate money? Become a voice? Write to your MP? Clean up your community? Teach a skill…?

The biggest difference betweeen an empath and a sensitive person is the work they put in. Empaths don’t just feel a bit of sadness, they move to heal it!

Which one are you? Come and join our facebook group group if you’d like support as you work… Because if you really are an empath, so many people are relying on you to step up and shine your healing light just now β™‘

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Manifesting and mantras with mala beads!

A couple of weeks ago I bought these really pretty mala beads! Do you use them? Make them? Want a set?!


Mala beads, as well as being cute to wear, are used to focus the mind. They are typically stringed up with 108 beads, and this is significant because the number 108 is a sacred number in Hinduism, and the earth, moon and sun are all 108 times their diameter away from earth. Other spiritual groups have other things going on which are linked to the number 108, but I won’t even pretend to understand these other theories because it’s safe to say that all over the world, people believe this number is pretty magical.

Mala beads can be worn during meditation or during affirmation time, and you pretty much feed the beads one at a time through your fingers as you repeat your mantra 108 times. To get the most power from the beads, many people use the same mantra daily for 30 or 40 days so that they can reset their minds for lasting change. The practice is calming, and wearing the beads is a constant reminder of the intention to change or manifest something different. Just having them nearby can help keep you on track. (Or they help me, anyway!)

Matching the beads used to your intention is a nice way of making your mala beads a bit more special, too. Amethyst can be used for intuitive goals, citrine for success or money goals, and rose quartz for all your love desires! And if you’re not sure which crystal will help? Picking up a set with the chakra crystals on them will cover all your bases and have you sorted!

Are you currently meditating with beads? Do you have a favourite set or favourite mantra? Leave me a comment below! I’d love to know the success your beads have manifested for you!

I’ve just started with mine, but already I’m loving the extra meditation time!

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A few thoughts on manifesting

Manifesting has become a bit of a buzz word lately hasn’t it? We all want to believe in the possibility of having our hearts desires with very little effort.

I’ve been learning a lot about manifesting just recently because whilst I believe in the law of attraction and its ability to help us, I don’t think attracting happens unless you are completely open to it and ready to run with the results. This has meant I’ve started on a healing journey so I can open my heart and receive the abundance I would love.

Here’s what I’ve been learning:

Manifesting is always on whether you are choosing your manifestation or not. It isn’t something you switch on purely so you can get your hands on a new car!

Manifesting is just another word for receiving. Your success with manifesting is directly linked to what you feel worthy of receiving. And you are ALWAYS receiving something! (Is it what you want though?!)

Your subconscious mind ultimately decides whether you are successful or not. Its beliefs are formed before the age of 8 and if you don’t have positive beliefs around yourself and your ability, you will hold yourself back in some way, shape or form.

To change subconscious beliefs you must let your spirit (love) guide you rather than ego. To do this, learn to love yourself and believe you are worthy before you throw your heart into trying to bring forward what you want.

Want to know where to start with self love? This book by Louise Hay is awesome. (Book is clickable!)


I believe we have to feel deserving of what we want before it can come to us. Until we feel worthy, no number of affirmations will work, particularly if we’re anxious about the time frame we have to work in.

When we love ourselves and know without doubt we are part of an abundant universe, there is nothing we cannot experience. But the challenge is to get to this point so that we can see the results of our energy work.

Have you ever manifested a desire *without* self love being present?

Let me know your thoughts. And also what you’re manifesting next! Me? I would love an even stronger connection with spirit, more writing gigs, and more time on the Isle of Wight with the family πŸ™‚

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What to do when life isn’t meeting your expectations

Do you ever feel as though life isn’t meeting your expectations? That life is flat, with nothing to look forward to?

Because when I feel like this, it’s because I’ve temporarily lost connection with my spirit. I’ve let chores take me away from my dreams, and I’ve let ego convince me I have to stay small and that there is no way out.

Luckily I know deep down that this is crap and that in order to get my sparkle back, I just have to turn my attention to where my ego thoughts are ruling!

If you feel life is missing something, here’s what to do and how to slowly build yourself back up again:

* Tap into your vision again. What are your goals? What does your dream life look like? This vision comes from your soul and needs to be lived if you want to feel peace. And if you don’t know where you’re going, it’s no wonder you feel lost! (If you need a reading, I am here!)
When you know your vision, take action on it. Some little steps every day will still boost you.

*Tap into your guidance. Your guides and angels will guide and heal you *if* you make space for them through daily meditation and you ask them to come through. What do you need help with? Ask spirit for support. Then trust. Don’t overthink or you’ll never let the guidance come.

*Tap into your connection with others. Find someone to help, and find someone to laugh with. We need to connect with others and feel as though we belong if we want to feel joy where we are.

*And finally, tap into the moment. Ground yourself with an affirmation, your breath, or a walk in nature. Don’t let fear of the future take you out of this moment. To feel safe you need to work with the power you have. This is always found right here in this second.

These things help me be present, but they also give me a reason to look forward to the future. They aren’t a one time fix however and this is where a lot of people go wrong! If you need to come back to this list several times a day to build the habit of connection, do it!

Only you can do the work, but you are most definitely worthy of the rewards once you get started. And once you do begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to be aware of when ego is trying to take you out!

Don’t let it!

Let your soul be your guide!

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Receiving messages from loved ones in spirit

I’ve been asked a few questions lately about receiving messages from loved ones in spirit. It seems you all know about meditating and developing intuition, and now you want step by step instructions so that you can actually start a conversation with spirit and develop your own mediumship skills. (I like this, we all have the ability buried somewhere! )

So let me give you 3 steps here to help you get you started with actually receiving meaningful information. And if you’re a medium already, feel free to add any comments!

Step one is to decide how you’re working. Do you have a powerful connection with your spirit guide and want them to relay the message? Or are you happy to let spirits come straight to you? Knowing who you’re talking to gives clarity. (Reminder: Set your boundaries by telling spirit, via prayer, when you are closed for connection as being woken up at 3am by a spirit who wants a chat can get tiring! )

Step two is to know how you want to receive these messages. Are you a strong in meditation and able to sit for an hour? Are you trying to develop instant raport in order to give client readings in the future? Are you better at receiving when you’re writing down what you receive? Or does dream work appeal most? (Many people start developing through dreams; I did.)
Know which method appeals most, and give your time to developing your skill. Once you are confident in your mediumship, you can develop the other methods with more ease since you’ll know more about what to expect.

Step three is to get into your zone of receiving, then know what you want to ask. Have a list of questions to ask the spirit you are connecting with, otherwise you might not receive too much. (Asking them for a shared memory is a nice way of confirming you are connected with the correct spirit)

Trust your intuition on this and don’t let ego tell you that you have to work a certain way. Do what is easiest for you whilst knowing the other skills will follow in time.

It’s almost as difficult or as easy as this to speak with spirit.

This isn’t an over night development however, so don’t be discouraged if the road is a long one.

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What is my life purpose?

Do you see that subject line? It is the number one question I’m asked during readings, above even connecting with loved ones.

And the answer is really simple because there is no great life mystery we are expected to solve.

Your life’s purpose is to move towards what makes you feel good, and heal anything that comes up along the way.

That’s it.

If you know what you want already (which is what most people desire when they talk of finding purpose) then your job is to work on why you aren’t there yet, heal the blocks, and go for it.

If you *don’t* know what you want, then your purpose is to choose happiness and live in this state as frequently as possible in every way possible, healing the blocks that prevent you from doing this.

By choosing happy, you’re then working towards a state that’s open to bigger opportunity.

My guides tell me that there isn’t always one lone thing you’re supposed to find in order to feel fulfilled for the century you might be lucky enough to be here for, and that chasing fulfilment which might not be there can leave us feeling terrible. Instead, they say to live more for the joy of the moment, whilst knowing your joy might well have changed by next week anyway if you live your true purpose of allowing soul growth.

Does that help you relax the grip you have on purpose? (It’s ego holding on, not your spirit! )

What is it you want for yourself?
Are you working towards getting there?

Because if you choose happiness now, you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose of spiritual growing and learning, which means you’re right where you’re supposed to be regardless of what your outside world looks like.

If you find yourself resisting this idea consider which part of you is trying to run the show. Is it your light based spirit? Or is it your more fearful, controlling ego leading the way?

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