What if you feel you don’t belong?

Do you ever feel as though you don’t belong anywhere? Or that despite having people you care about around you, you don’t quite fit in with anyone in particular?

Well don’t panic! You feel this way because you remember your truth! Here is not home… the spirit realm is! We are here visiting Earth for a very short amount of time, and some of us are more sensitive to this knowledge than others!

Having said that, there are things you can do to feel more settled so that you don’t have to live in a permanent state of something missing for the next half of a decade. Grounding your energy is something you’ll forget to do at first, but is something which will decrease the ‘lost’ feeling if you stick at it.

Ready? Here goes:

1) Ground yourself often with breath work, food, sipping water, or walking barefoot in the grass or sand. All of these things help bring us back to the moment we are in.

2) Envision roots growing from under your feet as you plant yourself firmly in this energy plane. You are present and this is where you live for now.

3) Strengthen your root chakra by envisioning a red spinning disk of energy within the groin area. This will help root your energy.

4) Find your tribe and let them support you. Whatever you like doing, there’s an online group for it! You don’t have to be physically alone all of the time and laughing in particular is an amazing healer.

5) Carry grounding crystals. I like Hematite and Smoky Quartz for this.

6) Work with mantras when you find your mind floating. I adore ‘I am safe’ and ‘I am here’ to remind myself that I really only have ‘now’ to play with.

Do you struggle to belong? Do you have any more grounding tips to share?

The good news is that more of us are waking up. We might feel odd now, but odd is fast becoming the new normal!

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Cord cutting with Archangel Michael

Whenever we make connections with other people, we form an attachment to them. This is obviously fine when they are loved ones who wish to see us rise to the top of the success chain, but what if we have emotional ties to people who are lower vibe than us or have little care for us?

It’s not always noticeable when ties are formed. Sometimes we *know* we can’t let go of someone because we physically feel the attachment, for example when a relationship ends yet we keep thinking of them and crying, or we’ve had an argument with somebody and we keep going over it in our minds, but quite a lot of the time we forget connections we’ve made before we’ve actually taken time to forgive the other person (or ourselves) and let go.

Do you feel tired, heavy, depressed, bored or anxious? Are you unable to move on? I find that whenever I feel like this, a good visualisation session sorts me out!

If you have the same symptoms, it might be worth calling on Archangel Michael and asking him to cut through any emotional cords you have attached to other people so that you can let go of emotions that are no longer serving you. Don’t worry about cutting cords with loved ones, you won’t damage your loving connection to them.

All you need to do to receive this healing is call on Archangel Michael and ask him to cut any ties weighing you down. As you do so it’s a good idea to envision the cords flowing from you, then imagine them being cut away by his light or his sword. As each cord is cut, allow yourself to feel relief as what’s holding you heavy is finally taken away. If you know who you need to cut ties with and can imagine them on the other end of the cord, the process will be all the more freeing but you can ask to be cut free of *anyone* who is emotionally holding you down, even those long forgotten or those you can’t put a name to.

You can even be freed from the emotional attachment to places, which is particularly useful if you’re looking to move away but are struggling to do so.


Doreen Virtue’s Chakra Cleansing book has the most clear examples of how you can use visualisation, chanting and meditation to clear your energy that I’ve found to date, with a section on cord cutting that is very easy to understand and impliment.

If you’re feeling sluggish, unwell or unable to move forwards, you might well find some cleansing helps improve your energy and mood.

Whether its cord cutting, chakra balancing or a change in diet that you need, I think this is the book which could help you feel better.

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5 crystals to boost skin health

If you’ve ever seen me in real life you’ll know my beauty routine doesn’t cover much more than a good wash and a spot of mascara. But if you’re more inclined to embrace looking your best and are on the quest for flawless skin, once again the crystals have got your back!


Fluorite is one of my favourite crystals for helping to clear mindless thoughts and gain clarity, but did you know it could also help you wrinkle less? Perhaps this is because more clarity equals less stress! The Fluorite above can be purchased at Charlottes Crystal Cabin. Isn’t it stunning?

Green Selenite helps to overcome the effects of aging on the skin. I sleep with this one under my pillow as it’s also very calming.

Yellow Apatite (above) helps with cell renewal, something which keeps our skin looking fresh. It also helps dissolve cellulite, not that you have any of course! As well as these things, Yellow Apatite is also said to boost psychic abilities 🙂

Rhodonite is an emotions healer, particularly good for soothing anger and aiding with forgiveness. This in itself reduces stress which helps us to stay young, but as an added bonus, Rhodonite is also said to help lessen the appearance of scarring.


And finally Carnelian (one of my favourite uplifting crystals), is said to stimulate the metabolism to help burn unwanted fat, and is also believed to help the body absorb more of the vitamins from your diet so that you can glow with vitality. As a bonus alongside making you beautiful, Carnelian will also boost your financial abundance! The Carnelian above can also be purchased at Charlottes Crystal Cabin.

I would suggest sleeping with these crystals near your bed, wearing them in jewellery, or meditating with them to have them work for you. Some crystals such as Selenite don’t like water, so be mindful of that before making infused drinks or bathing with them.

Do you have these crystals in your collection? What do you use them for? I’d love to get the crystal chat going ♥

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Smudging 101 – getting rid of negativity!

With new year rapidly heading this way, have you considered how you’ll clear any heavy or unhelpful energy from 2017 so that you can start January off with a renewed sense of purpose? If you haven’t, smudging can often provide the clean up you’re looking for! There are various herbs people use to smudge, but the most common one and the smudge stick I go for is sage.

Smudging is used on anything that needs an energy cleanse so this could be your whole house, just a room, or even yourself! All you have to do to smudge is waft the smudge stick around the edges of the area you’re cleansing, whilst intending to clear the negativity. Then afterwards, you’re free to welcome in the new with whatever ritual serves you best. (Candles, crystals, vision boards etc) Some people call on guides to help as they move around the room, but most people treat smudging as they would any other housekeeping or maintenance task and simply get on with it whilst knowing the smoke is doing its job.

There is some debate about whether windows should be open as you waft sage around. I personally like to keep them shut, smudge my intended spaces, then open them again with the intention of welcoming in new, fresh energy. (The intention to welcome fresh energy is key to feeling the difference by the way.) Sage can smell too, so this doing it this way helps prevent the scent clinging onto soft furnishings for days on end, and can prevent headaches from the smoke sticking around.

Smudging is done whenever there is energy that needs cleansing or to signify a fresh start, so it’s perfect for key dates such as new years, or key life events such as when you move into a new home or space. Smudging new spaces will stop you picking up on negativity left behind by previous people but it also helps with your own soul growth! It’s a nice thing to do as part of a spring clean or as a way of getting out of a cycle of butting heads with the people you live with.

If you’re new to smudging you’ll want to know that sage really burns and so it’s advisable to hold a plate under your smudge stick that can take heat and won’t get hot quickly otherwise you’re likely to burn yourself or your property. You’re also unlikely to use all of your smudge stick first time around so having a place to put it out and let it cool is also a good idea.

Smudge sticks can be homemade if you have the talent, or purchased from your favourite new age shop. I bought mine from Waves of inspiration in Lee on the Solent, Hampshire 🙂

Do you have a different way of cleansing your space? Let me know in the comments below. In the meantime though, happy smudging and happy cleansing!

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Crystal infused water

Looking through my facebook feed I know that many of you crystal owners took full advantage of the full moon last weekend and set your crystals out to cleanse and absorb some of that powerful manifesting energy.

But you know what I like to do also? I like to place my crystals in some spring water and leave it out overnight, so that I might drink that manifesting energy too!

When we place crystals in water, (note; do your research as some crystals don’t like to get too wet!) our liquid infuses with the crystal energy and is then perfect for sipping with intention the next day. I like to set my healing intentions out before I drink, then thank the water for the healing it is giving me. As I sip, I imagine the water moving through my cells, clearing up whatever isn’t working for me at the time. And it seems to work wonders.

When the dog was Ill, I had bloodstone in a jug of water which I kept topping up and decanting into his bowl. Bloodstone for example is a wonderful cleanser and works well to clear infections, clean blood, and work alongside any organs that do this work for us such as our kidneys and liver. (in the interest of declaring all, he did see the vet too!)

If you’re lucky enough to already have perfect health, maybe you could consider infusing some water with abundance energy or peace energy! Blue lace agate springs to mind as a crystal that would work well for this!

Have you enjoyed success with crystal infused products? Let me know so I can try too! There seems no end to the things our crystals can do 🙂

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Agate, Carnelian, Moldavite and Larimar.

Over the summer holidays we took a day trip to Swanage. We went mostly for the beach and the ice cream, but there is a lovely little crystal shop there called Natural Wonders which entices me in every time I visit.

On the counter as I walked in was a beautiful blue lace agate bracelet which just called to me. I initially walked past, but then went back to it. Blue lace agate is a calming crystal for me, but it also helps with self expression, particularly when it comes to fear we might have around being judged. This crystal helps heal the throat area, and is linked to the throat chakra.

Next up was a piece of moldavite. Now I know this piece is not pure due to its low price and it’s calcite description but I’m going to work with it and see what it does anyway! Pure moldavite raises vibration, enhances spiritual skills, deepens development, sharpens intuition and throws all the issues you need to address to the surface! Basically, it enhances everything!!

Carnelian was my third choice. I have some carnelian already, but the colour of this one caught my eye. Carnelian is said to aid with creativity, motivation, concentration and perception. As I’m writing this I’m thinking it might be a good crystal for a writer to work with. Carnelian is also said to boost metabolism.

Finally, I was drawn to a piece of larimar. (My second piece!) Larimar is said to be great for healing past life issues, and for enhancing spiritual growth. It is a bringer of peace and love, and is said to help its user release feelings of fear and guilt. I am using this crystal at the moment to work through soul issues I’ve carried over from previous lives.

Where is your local crystal shop? Have you purchased anything pretty lately? Let me know in the comments! X

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Animal spirit guides, the black bear

Last week I watched Wild Alaska, a live documentary the BBC aired for us over the course of a week. One of the highlights for me was seeing a mummy black bear with her three cubs fishing for salmon. Aside from her beauty, she really spoke to me! Her job was to be a black bear doing what black bears do and I was really mesmerised by the awareness and mindfulness her energy presented.

Unlike us humans, she wasn’t concerned with what might happen tomorrow, how she was comparing to other black bears in the community or whether she was fulfilling her purpose as a bear, she was simply taking care of the moment and doing what she needed to do to feed her family and teach her cubs survival skills whilst the lesson was available.

I just loved her presence and her awareness of each moment and where she fitted in within nature.

So I looked up black bears as spirit animals!

If the black bear is your spirit animal (you’ll feel drawn to him) or shows up as a guide, he comes to represent power, strength, courage, awareness and grounding. If the black bear shows up to give you a sign within a dream or as you go about your daily business, he might be around to remind you of your ability to heal yourself and others, or to nudge you into living your life’s purpose as a healer.

Do you have an animal totem? What does it mean? Share in the comments below!

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Sitting in the power

I didn’t actually know sitting in the power was ‘a thing’ until a couple of months ago, but many people swear they are able to increase their mediumship abilities by practising this magical technique on a frequent basis.

Sitting in the power is a way to merge energies within you and outside of you until the space is one. It’s like taking the ultimate goosebump feeling of standing in nature in pure overwhelment of it’s perfection, allowing it to flow through you, then learning it travels outside of you and returns back so perfectly that you are not actually a separate physical form… You are just God’s perfection at one with everything.

Sitting in the power is simply sitting in this pure state and allowing it to energize and lift you as you acknowledge this beautiful energy merging within you and outside of you.

To get into this state, sit quietly in a meditation and regulate your breath. You might like some music or some candles etc if props help you reach relaxation. Then, begin by imagining a beautiful white light pulsating in the solar plexus area. Concentrate on it, and with every breath see it expanding until it fills you entirely and leaves you feeling light and full of love. Once you’re illuminated by this light, expand it to surround you as big as you’d like to go. See your light merging with the divine light outside of you until it is all one. Tune in to how it feels. (It’s awe inspiring!) With this energy surrounding you, envision it flowing within you, outside of you, and returning to you with every breath. You are not separate from this light or limited by your physical form. You ARE this light.

Sitting in the power is taking this time to embrace your spirit and the connection you have with all that is, and feeling the wonder of consciously playing with this connection to divine energy. It’s a magical practice which over time strengthens the ability to work with spirit, but it’s not the intention to connect with guidance during this exercise. (Though guides have joined me on occasion!) This practice is relaxing as well, leaving anyone who sits in the power buzzing with energy and feeling pretty good.

Do you sit in the power to boost your mediumship skills? Do you call it something different? Do you *do* something different to tap into this energy? Share in the comments!

In the meantime I hope this helps you budding mediums!

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When you’re too depressed for gratitude

Last week I shared a post explaining what I do to get grateful when I’m not feeling it. I wanted to share the post because unless we’re very lucky, life isn’t mind blowingly exciting all of the time and for most of us, living in awe doesn’t come naturally.

The post was really well received and I had a lot of great feedback but I also received a message from someone who has depression and feels too low to be looking around in wonder regardless of the miracles the rest of us assure her are there. She asked me what *she* should do to feel happier and I thought it would be nice to share my answer here.

I believe self love is the best cure for anyone suffering with low moods. How we speak to ourselves and how we treat ourselves shapes our worlds, and our uncaring self habits tear us down on a daily basis and we’re not even aware of it.

Anyone who feels life is not doing it for them should look inwards first and see what they are telling themselves about their own life. Then they should find the most loving statement they can, and meditate on it daily for at least a month so that spiritual healing can begin. When we meditate with a mantra, our words either throw up what needs to be healed, or we start to feel better. I like ‘I love myself and I love the world’ as a general feel good affirmation but if you’re not there yet, try ‘I’m willing to learn to love myself’ or ‘I appreciate the strength I’m showing as I work towards feeling better’. Whatever makes you feel better is where your attention should be.

Self love mantras are not quick fixes. They are designed to lift you step by step over a period of time but they *do* work if you put effort into noticing your negative thoughts and replace them with a general but more positive statement. Consistency in using them is key but they work best when you are open to them working, so a trip to the doctor, an exercise programme, good sleep or a decent diet all might help you get to that place. Don’t struggle alone.

Alongside the mantras, taking time every day to look after YOU is a good idea. Give yourself some kindness by making space in the day for a quiet cuppa, going for a swim, or enjoying a good book. Most DEFINITELY get into the habit of praising yourself for your daily wins. Notice when you’ve done a fab job, helped someone or contributed. If something has gone well, give yourself a pat on the back.

Notice your thoughts and you’ll be in a good place to change. Are your thoughts negative? If so, your life is going to be tarnished by them.

You may not feel like challenging your thoughts straight away but if you start with thought awareness, you might just find you can begin, over time, to notice when you have been overly harsh, overly critical, or overly influenced by your current mood. You might even be able to give your thoughts over to your depression and know it’s not your true self shining through.

What are you telling yourself today? Could you find a better statement? 🙂

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5 healing crystals

As well as looking beautiful, I love how crystals can compliment our physical healing. All crystals help with wellbeing in one way or another, but most have several uses making it tricky for new crystal users to know where to start when choosing essential pieces. I thought today I would post very briefly about 5 crystals I know of and share with you their healing abilities.

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Amber
Amber is said not to be a crystal as such but is still treated as one. Amber is believed to be fabulous for cleansing the body so all the organs benefit from this one. Amber is said to particularly help the kidneys, bladder and liver. I would use Amber whenever I felt I needed a reboot or to clear general lethargy.

Black Tourmaline
Tourmaline is said to be the crystal you need for healing the mind. It’s said to help with self belief, confidence and worry.

Aquamarine
I love this crystal for it’s beauty! Aquamarine is believed to help with gland and thyroid problems, balancing them out when they are not efficiently working.

Sodalite
I actually have a piece of Sodalite, purchased to help balance my metabolism. I haven’t suddenly become a skinny minnie, but I haven’t put any weight on either despite changing my diet and adding in a few more carbs! (Some of us need carbs to curb the hunger!)

Rhodonite
Finally, Rhodonite is said to aid fertility. It’s the piece to wear to balance the cycle before baby moves in!
Rhodonite is also said to help with problems of the ear, including the balance issues that can come with ear and sinus troubles.

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Once you’ve purchased your crystal, cleanse it with spring water or leave it overnight in the light of the moon, then ask it for the help you need. Carry it around with you, sleep with it under your pillow, treat it with love and meditate with it. If you are guided to take action or to look into new doctors or treatments, go for it knowing your crystal is helping you out. Otherwise, enjoy the way the crystal works with the energy within you to improve your health using the body’s own natural healing ability.

Crystals don’t take the place of modern energy, but they do have the ability to compliment it in a big way.

Have another issue you need help with? You are always welcome to get in touch. 🙂

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