Don’t let ego ruin your development

When I first started out on my mediumship journey I wanted to believe that every little bump in the night was spirit. I was desperate to be able to say that I was tuned in and developing fast so that I too could claim I was a gifted person.

I tell you this now because I get a lot of emails from people on their own development path. They tell me things have happened or that they’ve heard things, and they share with me how convinced they are that spirit is trying to catch their attention.

Of course some people really will be receiving visits from spirit! Spirit will bang doors, turn on lights, set off toys and make phones ring, and it’s good to be aware of these things! But equally, these things happen ‘just because’, and if we get caught up in believing every little sound is Great Aunt Beryl calling in for tea, we’re going to lose the ability to develop further.

If you’re here, it’s because you want to connect with spirit so in order to help you I need to say in the nicest possible way, don’t let ego tell you you are special because you’ve heard the odd noise. Instead, simply be aware of it and perhaps journal it. Then, spend some time meditating. See what your spiritual self feels about what you’re hearing. Ask your guides to give you details about who is with you and what they want. Have a go at tuning into the energy. Do you feel anything? Document it. Then connect again and ask for more. Connect again. Ask for clarification. Ask for your questions to be answered one by one…

And if you don’t get anything? Keep meditating, keep holding space for spirit, and keep trusting you *will* develop when the time is right.

Connecting to spirit takes time, as does interpreting what you’re given. Our goal here isn’t to get too excited because you’ve heard a bang, but to learn what that bang might mean. Is it simply a change in energy or temperature? Is it a loved one around? Is your guide offering you a calling card? What does it all mean to you?

One thing I’ve learned on this spiritual journey is that patience and committment are two things you can never have too much of if you want to learn how to trust what you feel.

Take your time and remain curious, and your guides will help you strengthen your connection to the spirit world.

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Smudging 101 – getting rid of negativity!

With new year rapidly heading this way, have you considered how you’ll clear any heavy or unhelpful energy from 2017 so that you can start January off with a renewed sense of purpose? If you haven’t, smudging can often provide the clean up you’re looking for! There are various herbs people use to smudge, but the most common one and the smudge stick I go for is sage.

Smudging is used on anything that needs an energy cleanse so this could be your whole house, just a room, or even yourself! All you have to do to smudge is waft the smudge stick around the edges of the area you’re cleansing, whilst intending to clear the negativity. Then afterwards, you’re free to welcome in the new with whatever ritual serves you best. (Candles, crystals, vision boards etc) Some people call on guides to help as they move around the room, but most people treat smudging as they would any other housekeeping or maintenance task and simply get on with it whilst knowing the smoke is doing its job.

There is some debate about whether windows should be open as you waft sage around. I personally like to keep them shut, smudge my intended spaces, then open them again with the intention of welcoming in new, fresh energy. (The intention to welcome fresh energy is key to feeling the difference by the way.) Sage can smell too, so this doing it this way helps prevent the scent clinging onto soft furnishings for days on end, and can prevent headaches from the smoke sticking around.

Smudging is done whenever there is energy that needs cleansing or to signify a fresh start, so it’s perfect for key dates such as new years, or key life events such as when you move into a new home or space. Smudging new spaces will stop you picking up on negativity left behind by previous people but it also helps with your own soul growth! It’s a nice thing to do as part of a spring clean or as a way of getting out of a cycle of butting heads with the people you live with.

If you’re new to smudging you’ll want to know that sage really burns and so it’s advisable to hold a plate under your smudge stick that can take heat and won’t get hot quickly otherwise you’re likely to burn yourself or your property. You’re also unlikely to use all of your smudge stick first time around so having a place to put it out and let it cool is also a good idea.

Smudge sticks can be homemade if you have the talent, or purchased from your favourite new age shop. I bought mine from Waves of inspiration in Lee on the Solent, Hampshire 🙂

Do you have a different way of cleansing your space? Let me know in the comments below. In the meantime though, happy smudging and happy cleansing!

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Connecting to spirit with Selenite

When your crystal pals rave so hard about certain crystals, (Hollie Stark!) you know you’ve got to get your hands on them yourself! I’ve owned my beautiful Selenite for a couple of months now, but I wanted some time to really get working with it before I put up this post.

Selenite is said to be the crystal of choice for anyone wishing to raise their vibration in general. I found it to be a very soothing gem, and I credit it with calming my anxieties and smoothing over tension within myself particularly around my time of month when I generally have less patience than normal.

Selenite is said to help with opening the crown chakra, connecting with the angelic realm, seeing the bigger picture, and helping with clarity. This makes it the perfect crystal for anyone wishing to make connection with spirit, whether that’s with guides or angels. Of course you still need to put in the work, but I found that meditating with this, as well as sleeping with it under my pillow, made my connection to my guides feel a lot stronger. I could feel messages being passed through me with such certainty that the second guessing that is sometimes there during readings didn’t have a chance of tripping me up. (Being honest here, I do still question what comes through!)

As well as being beautiful, (though be careful – it does seem to chip!) Selenite is so powerfully in tune with loving source energy that it is now a perminant fixture by my bed and in my jewellery box. It takes everything you need for contacting spirit (trust, love, clarity, protection) and amplifies it to make angel and spirit connections far easier.

Don’t have a piece yet? Sign up to the your spiritual self newsletter on the top right of his post and you could win one! The draw is open worldwide, and the winner will be picked at random from all subscribers at the end of 2017. The crystal will be posted out to you in January.

Good luck!

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Dreams and psychic development

One of the challenges many of us have when developing our psychic abilities is silencing our inner chatter, thoughts and noise enough for the subtle guidance to come through. Whether you want to meet your spirit guide or connect with a loved one on the other side, night time can be an easy way of sinking into that peace you need to work with.

My first experience of receiving messages from spirit was through my dreams, (NB you’ll know you’re not dreaming – the energy and visions are just too intense! ) and from there, everything really started developing.

If you are someone who struggles to remember their dreams but would really like to be able to for the messages they can bring, here are 3 tools to help you out and help you turn your dreams into part of your spiritual practice so that you too can make the psychic connections you really want to develop.

Essential Oils are easy to get hold of these days and so very easy to use. You have the option of dabbing the oils straight onto your skin for a direct hit or, if you want to make a bottle stretch and have your room smelling wonderful, making up a spray for your pillow. Frankincense is a well known oil for helping its user raise their vibration and be more open to the spiritual realm which is an ideal boost when you want to increase your night visions or heighten your meditation time. The only catch with this one is it can be expensive although in my book, this oil is worth it for the magic it brings to the table. The higher our vibrations, the easier it is for us to connect with spirit and achieve our psychic development goals and Frankincense is THE oil to get you there.
As an added bonus, when you apply Frankincense directly onto the skin it is the best for reducing wrinkles too! If you are looking to clean up your skincare routine alongside becoming more spiritually aligned, this is the way to do it. (and a bottle lasts a very long time!)

Clary sage will calm you, relax you, and help you regulate hormones which all leads to better quality sleep and therefore, more vision time. It’s perfect as a compliment to Frankincense, or can be used on it’s own to help you drop off and stay snoozing. My friend Kristen will help you purchase your good quality oils (they have to be pure to work so stay away from the £2.99 specials!) when you check out her website with Young Living HERE.

Crystals help with just about every goal you have! Meditating with them before sleep or tucking them under your pillow will often help with dream recall which is half the battle when it comes to receiving spiritual messages at night. 2 crystals especially good for this type of work are Celestite and Herkimer diamond. Celestite is a very high vibration stone which helps it’s user connect with the angelic realm and stimulate clairvoyant abilities, whilst Herkimer diamond stimulates psychic abilities and clears any blocks which might be preventing the flow of spiritual energy.

Finally, when remembering dreams, time is of the essence! Before sleeping, say a little prayer and ask your guides to help you remember what you dream because setting intention is a huge part of being successful. Then have a pencil and notebook by your bed and write down what you remember as soon as you wake up. Even key words can help you recall when you go back to your notes at a later date.

Over time, even if you don’t get anything that makes sense straight away, you’ll slowly start to build a picture of how you dream and the types of symbols or spiritual messages you receive. Once you have this foundation you’ll be able not only to build on the information received by asking spirit for further clarification, but you’ll show your intention to communicate, which spirit will be keen to work with and will help you develop.

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Animal spirit guides, the black bear

Last week I watched Wild Alaska, a live documentary the BBC aired for us over the course of a week. One of the highlights for me was seeing a mummy black bear with her three cubs fishing for salmon. Aside from her beauty, she really spoke to me! Her job was to be a black bear doing what black bears do and I was really mesmerised by the awareness and mindfulness her energy presented.

Unlike us humans, she wasn’t concerned with what might happen tomorrow, how she was comparing to other black bears in the community or whether she was fulfilling her purpose as a bear, she was simply taking care of the moment and doing what she needed to do to feed her family and teach her cubs survival skills whilst the lesson was available.

I just loved her presence and her awareness of each moment and where she fitted in within nature.

So I looked up black bears as spirit animals!

If the black bear is your spirit animal (you’ll feel drawn to him) or shows up as a guide, he comes to represent power, strength, courage, awareness and grounding. If the black bear shows up to give you a sign within a dream or as you go about your daily business, he might be around to remind you of your ability to heal yourself and others, or to nudge you into living your life’s purpose as a healer.

Do you have an animal totem? What does it mean? Share in the comments below!

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What’s your spirit guide sign?

Do you want to learn to communicate with your spirit guide? Depending on what you want to get out of your connection, noticing your spirit guide’s presence can be really quite easy!

If you genuinely want to work with your spirit guides and form strong links for communication to flow, you really need to read this article on meditation and build the foundations of trust from the bottom up. The instructions in the post will help you build you a strong, solid connection which in turn will lead to enhanced spiritual growth and developed psychic and mediumship ability.

But if all you’re interested in is receiving proof you actually *have* a spirit guide, or you want a little confirmation of assistance before you put the hours of work in, consider asking your guides to send you a sign to signal their presence.

Your sign can be anything you choose, from images to songs to numbers. Blue hearts are one of my signs, as are strawberries! Then, when you’ve chosen, you just need to ask your guides to send you a visual of your image to say hello. (You make your guides aware of your request by sending a quick prayer to them.) Your sign will be shown to you in a very short amount of time, provided you keep your eyes open for it. This means staying in the moment and being present! Do you wander around caught up in the past or fretting about your future? This is your only barrier to receiving communication.

Once you’ve received your visual, you then have the opportunity to ask your spirit support team yes/no questions because they can send your sign to indicate a yes response. Taking this further, over time you might learn of something you hear, smell, see or sense when your guides are near and that’s when the connection really gets strong!

So have a go at this today! And let me know how quickly you get your confirmation of your guides presence!

I’m excited to hear your success stories, and I look forward to hearing what your sign is!

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How to be happier

Can we talk mindfulness this week? It seems to be a buzz word we all throw around as something we ought to practice more of but don’t!

This past week I have been moving from task to task more mindfully. I have been stopping myself every few minutes to check what I’m thinking, and I’ve been amazed at what I’ve learned about myself.

Had you asked me 2 weeks ago whether I was a positive person I’d have said yes! But what I’ve learned recently is that I do most of my life on autopilot, with very little feeling of gratitude. Perhaps this is why life for me is so very often average… I have nothing to complain about but I don’t launch out of bed in excitement each morning either.

How does life look for you? Are you like me, stuck in the same rut, day in, day out? Is life pleasant enough but not all that exciting? If so, what’s missing is mindfulness and the opportunity to practice gratitude that mindfulness brings.

Every moment gives us a chance to be grateful about *something* which is happening for us. The trouble is, 99% of what we do is done without thinking. We don’t give thanks for our legs when we walk out the door. We don’t give thanks for the ease at which we can buy breakfast. We don’t give thanks for safe roads as we commute and we don’t give thanks for the hot water and cosmetics which allow us to feel good as we show up for work. We sit at a desk without feeling gratitude for the comfort of our chair and we drink coffee without feeling thankful for our tastebuds. I could go on but you get the picture I hope!

So this week I would like to challenge you to pause every 5 minutes to check what you’re thinking. Are you practicing gratitude as you should be? Because if you’re not, don’t be surprised when life feels bland.

We have opportunities at any given moment to appreciate life and if we choose not to focus on appreciating, it’s no wonder we miss the miracles. I think as you have a go at this mindfulness challenge you’ll be surprised at how frequently you forget to check your thoughts and how often the hours pass by as you ‘get on’ with things without really registering how amazing your life truly is!

Have a go at increasing your happiness by taking time to be grateful. Imagine how fab life could appear if you found something to be thankful for every five minutes… You’d struggle to find time for too many negative moments!

Just so you know, being mindful also increases your chances of noticing your intuition coming through and your guides communicating with you.

If happiness isn’t enough, that in itself makes life a bit magical doesn’t it? 😉

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What my spirit guides want us to know

Recently I was in a meditation searching for a solution to a small frustration I’ve been having. Whenever I need answers I usually meditate and wait for spirit guides to join me because this is normally enough to start a new thinking pattern and get myself back on track.

But guidance comes in many forms and we don’t always get step by step answers – sometimes it is up to us to ask for help then surrender the need to control what our reply is. This week, my dear spirit guide needed to remind me of this.

During meditation I complained to my guide that things were not as smooth going as I’d like them to be and that I was feeling annoyed. The answer that came back was this:

“Sometimes, what we think are blocks, barriers and hold ups are actually the solutions we’ve asked for.”

Isn’t that freeing?

My theme for 2017 is ‘surrender’, and days earlier I had already been told to resist nothing. Obviously I’d heard the message, but I hadn’t paid attention to it. This meant my guide was forced to listen to me complaining for a second time before repeating the message in a different way! (Which, for the record, is fine with guides as long as you are committed to the work).

So, just to save your own guides shouting at you til they’re blue in the face, let me pass this super important message on.

* We must surrender to the experience of life. We must use whatever we’re given as a starting point for choosing the most loving perspective.

*We must resist nothing. Even if it feels terrible going through it, we must learn the lesson the experience brings and trust that we will feel better one day. Perhaps we’ll feel better than better one day!

*What we resist, persists. We’re here to learn our life lessons and in some form we will keep repeating our lessons with different people and situations until we pass the assignment. Take everything as a gift. Where is the blessing? What do you need to learn?

*We must not assume it’s wrong for us just because it wasn’t in our own plan. What might we gain if we were to go with the detour and see how things pan out? We cannot ask for guidance then ignore it because it’s not what we want. We don’t get what we think we want… we get what we need.

*And finally, we must strengthen our link to our guides through regular meditation. They are waiting to speak with us if we will just make space for them.

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I hope this serves you a little. Let go of control, go with what life has to offer, and find the light in every situation. Things might be frustrating, or you might just be resisting the solution…

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Why meditation is vital if you want to channel

Twice this week I have been asked why meditation is so important when it comes to meeting spirit guides. So here’s the answer.

It’s true that meditation allows space for guides to come through, but in the early days of your spiritual journey in particular, meditation is vital because it allows us to learn about ourselves.

When we learn to meditate without expectation of anything weird and wonderful happening, we learn to feel for ourselves what happens to our energy during relaxation. We learn how meditation feels in general, what happens to our body temperature, what our minds tend to focus on, how various body parts feel, and what happens to our senses.

This means that when a guide or spirit comes through, (sometimes years later!) we know without doubt that changes in our energy have occured, and we are certain that the messages coming through are real.

If we skip this vital period of learning about ourselves, we can never really know for sure we are connecting with spirit because we have to rely on how others tell us we should feel during connection.

Without certainty of our own ability, we start to question whether our imaginations have come out to play and to be blunt, it IS very easy to be misled by ego when we want connection to our guides so much. When ego leads our quest for connection, it leads us to frustration and a feeling that ‘nothing is happening’ and that ‘I can’t do this’ because predictions made from this space come from human thoughts rather than spiritual channelling and are very rarely accurate.

Nobody can teach you what your default energy feels like, and nobody can teach you what guidance feels like either. It’s something you have to experience for yourself and this starts with a dedicated meditation practise and a willingness to know yourself inside out and back to front. This is why, to answer the original question, meditation is so important. How can you know something spiritual has happened if you aren’t aware of what ‘normal’ feels like?

There are a lot of ways to develop your own spiritual gifts but all of them start with this basic knowledge of self. You must be willing to put the effort in or you’ll not get very far.

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If you’re ready to commit to a meditation practise but don’t want to go it alone, your tribe is only a click and a like away! We meditate, talk spirit, and enjoy a weekly card reading. Come and say hello to us on facebook and then when you realise your meditation has paid off and your guide HAS come through, you’ll have friends to celebrate your excitement with! 🙂

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The magic of intention

I spoke to somebody last week who is working on meeting her spirit guide. She came to me for a few lessons because she’d not been enjoying success in her attempts to connect. We spoke about her methods and her feelings about spirit and, long story short, it transpired that she wasn’t meditating more than once a week (usually less) and that she didn’t really believe a guide was waiting for her to speak with. Because of this belief, she wasn’t expecting anything when she did sit down to the occasional meditation.

She’s allowed me to blog this because it may be the one thing holding you back from your own spiritual connection too.

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You see, no matter what you do or what you want to achieve, your intention plays a big part in your success. If you have a strong intention to connect with your spirit guide, be happy, learn to speak Russian or declutter the house, you’re going to get there sooner or later. If you don’t believe it’s possible though, you’re not going to put the time in. You’ll not see results and then you’ll justify your lack of progress. It is impossible to set a positive intention if deep down you don’t believe you will see success.

Your intention makes all the difference

Do you have a goal or a desire? If so, set the intention to move towards your end result regardless of what it takes. Don’t hold back or put obstacles in the way, at least not if your intention to achieve is strong. (Is it?) Decide right now that you are going to make it, step by step and choice by choice.

Perhaps your goal is to feel differently, to be happier or worry less. In which case it’s time to declare your intention to feel calmer and more joyful. If you don’t, your environment will dictate your mood and take you out. You get to choose how you feel based on how committed you are to feeling it.

Maybe you want to stay peaceful as you move through a stressful day. Maybe you want your spirit guides to direct you bit by bit. Maybe you want to connect with a loved one on the other side. Intention is what makes the difference between achieving these things and feeling dispondent. You have to believe in your ability and then set the intention to uncover what you need to know before strengthening your skills. Without these things your guides know your heart isn’t ready to put the work in yet and connecting isn’t really your intention at all. (Is it any wonder you don’t hear them?)

It took me a fair while to realise that happiness and gratitude are a choice. There is always the choice of feeling better than you do and it’s achieved by looking for a better focus. This is probably one of my biggest life lessons – that life is what you make it and you make it better by your strong intentions.

Intention… One word which can set you up strong or have you waste your time in fluffy half hearted progress. Are you determined when it comes to what you desire?

Just so you know… The girl I’ve been speaking with hasn’t managed to meet her guide so far but she IS feeling more connected and she IS waiting patiently because she knows what she wants and she’s intending to achieve it. She’s committed to her daily meditation practise now too, sending a clear signal out that she knows what she wants.

What do you want for yourself? Have you set your intention today?

Love as always 🙂

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