What to do when life isn’t meeting your expectations

Do you ever feel as though life isn’t meeting your expectations? That life is flat, with nothing to look forward to?

Because when I feel like this, it’s because I’ve temporarily lost connection with my spirit. I’ve let chores take me away from my dreams, and I’ve let ego convince me I have to stay small and that there is no way out.

Luckily I know deep down that this is crap and that in order to get my sparkle back, I just have to turn my attention to where my ego thoughts are ruling!

If you feel life is missing something, here’s what to do and how to slowly build yourself back up again:

* Tap into your vision again. What are your goals? What does your dream life look like? This vision comes from your soul and needs to be lived if you want to feel peace. And if you don’t know where you’re going, it’s no wonder you feel lost! (If you need a reading, I am here!)
When you know your vision, take action on it. Some little steps every day will still boost you.

*Tap into your guidance. Your guides and angels will guide and heal you *if* you make space for them through daily meditation and you ask them to come through. What do you need help with? Ask spirit for support. Then trust. Don’t overthink or you’ll never let the guidance come.

*Tap into your connection with others. Find someone to help, and find someone to laugh with. We need to connect with others and feel as though we belong if we want to feel joy where we are.

*And finally, tap into the moment. Ground yourself with an affirmation, your breath, or a walk in nature. Don’t let fear of the future take you out of this moment. To feel safe you need to work with the power you have. This is always found right here in this second.

These things help me be present, but they also give me a reason to look forward to the future. They aren’t a one time fix however and this is where a lot of people go wrong! If you need to come back to this list several times a day to build the habit of connection, do it!

Only you can do the work, but you are most definitely worthy of the rewards once you get started. And once you do begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to be aware of when ego is trying to take you out!

Don’t let it!

Let your soul be your guide!

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Receiving messages from loved ones in spirit

I’ve been asked a few questions lately about receiving messages from loved ones in spirit. It seems you all know about meditating and developing intuition, and now you want step by step instructions so that you can actually start a conversation with spirit and develop your own mediumship skills. (I like this, we all have the ability buried somewhere! )

So let me give you 3 steps here to help you get you started with actually receiving meaningful information. And if you’re a medium already, feel free to add any comments!

Step one is to decide how you’re working. Do you have a powerful connection with your spirit guide and want them to relay the message? Or are you happy to let spirits come straight to you? Knowing who you’re talking to gives clarity. (Reminder: Set your boundaries by telling spirit, via prayer, when you are closed for connection as being woken up at 3am by a spirit who wants a chat can get tiring! )

Step two is to know how you want to receive these messages. Are you a strong in meditation and able to sit for an hour? Are you trying to develop instant raport in order to give client readings in the future? Are you better at receiving when you’re writing down what you receive? Or does dream work appeal most? (Many people start developing through dreams; I did.)
Know which method appeals most, and give your time to developing your skill. Once you are confident in your mediumship, you can develop the other methods with more ease since you’ll know more about what to expect.

Step three is to get into your zone of receiving, then know what you want to ask. Have a list of questions to ask the spirit you are connecting with, otherwise you might not receive too much. (Asking them for a shared memory is a nice way of confirming you are connected with the correct spirit)

Trust your intuition on this and don’t let ego tell you that you have to work a certain way. Do what is easiest for you whilst knowing the other skills will follow in time.

It’s almost as difficult or as easy as this to speak with spirit.

This isn’t an over night development however, so don’t be discouraged if the road is a long one.

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What is my life purpose?

Do you see that subject line? It is the number one question I’m asked during readings, above even connecting with loved ones.

And the answer is really simple because there is no great life mystery we are expected to solve.

Your life’s purpose is to move towards what makes you feel good, and heal anything that comes up along the way.

That’s it.

If you know what you want already (which is what most people desire when they talk of finding purpose) then your job is to work on why you aren’t there yet, heal the blocks, and go for it.

If you *don’t* know what you want, then your purpose is to choose happiness and live in this state as frequently as possible in every way possible, healing the blocks that prevent you from doing this.

By choosing happy, you’re then working towards a state that’s open to bigger opportunity.

My guides tell me that there isn’t always one lone thing you’re supposed to find in order to feel fulfilled for the century you might be lucky enough to be here for, and that chasing fulfilment which might not be there can leave us feeling terrible. Instead, they say to live more for the joy of the moment, whilst knowing your joy might well have changed by next week anyway if you live your true purpose of allowing soul growth.

Does that help you relax the grip you have on purpose? (It’s ego holding on, not your spirit! )

What is it you want for yourself?
Are you working towards getting there?

Because if you choose happiness now, you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose of spiritual growing and learning, which means you’re right where you’re supposed to be regardless of what your outside world looks like.

If you find yourself resisting this idea consider which part of you is trying to run the show. Is it your light based spirit? Or is it your more fearful, controlling ego leading the way?

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Our Spiritual Selves

Our spiritual self is the part of us which leads us with love towards peace.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to let go of taking action because we’re scared not to, or scared of what people will think of us if we don’t do what’s expected.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop people pleasing for fear of being judged.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop playing small for fear of failure and yet more judgement…

Our spiritual self is the part of us which, when listened to, guides us to joy. It helps us hear our spirit guides, feel our angels, and learn of a whole new world full of love, healing and infinite possibilities.

Our spiritual self knows we are here on earth for a very short while, and have the ability to receive love from loved ones passed over.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which knows that EVERYTHING is possible for us if we will just show up with a positive attitude…

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But to gain all this we have to trust in our spiritual selves and be brave enough to live who we are. We have to stop letting ego run the show with it’s fear driven voice.

Do you know who you are?
Do you know how you want to feel?
Are you ready to receive the spiritual support our universe offers?

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Then:

*Trust that you are supported always and remember to ask your guides for help.
*Choose the fastest route to peace in each moment. Breathe! You have time.
*Take time to ask your spirit what it needs. Follow up on that!
*Follow what feels good. If it robs you of your peace, the price is too high.
*Meditate daily with the intention of connecting with spirit and nourishing your soul. Again, you have time.
*Set the intention to live connected to spirit. Don’t let ego keep you in fear. You are safe.
*Ground yourself with breath, sipping water, or being around nature. Be in this moment fully.
*Serve yourself by choosing peace and serve others by helping them get there too…

Let your spiritual self thrive!

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What’s next for you? What do you want that you haven’t let yourself have? What does that feel like? Are you ready to trust in your spirit?

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Don’t let ego ruin your development

When I first started out on my mediumship journey I wanted to believe that every little bump in the night was spirit. I was desperate to be able to say that I was tuned in and developing fast so that I too could claim I was a gifted person.

I tell you this now because I get a lot of emails from people on their own development path. They tell me things have happened or that they’ve heard things, and they share with me how convinced they are that spirit is trying to catch their attention.

Of course some people really will be receiving visits from spirit! Spirit will bang doors, turn on lights, set off toys and make phones ring, and it’s good to be aware of these things! But equally, these things happen ‘just because’, and if we get caught up in believing every little sound is Great Aunt Beryl calling in for tea, we’re going to lose the ability to develop further.

If you’re here, it’s because you want to connect with spirit so in order to help you I need to say in the nicest possible way, don’t let ego tell you you are special because you’ve heard the odd noise. Instead, simply be aware of it and perhaps journal it. Then, spend some time meditating. See what your spiritual self feels about what you’re hearing. Ask your guides to give you details about who is with you and what they want. Have a go at tuning into the energy. Do you feel anything? Document it. Then connect again and ask for more. Connect again. Ask for clarification. Ask for your questions to be answered one by one…

And if you don’t get anything? Keep meditating, keep holding space for spirit, and keep trusting you *will* develop when the time is right.

Connecting to spirit takes time, as does interpreting what you’re given. Our goal here isn’t to get too excited because you’ve heard a bang, but to learn what that bang might mean. Is it simply a change in energy or temperature? Is it a loved one around? Is your guide offering you a calling card? What does it all mean to you?

One thing I’ve learned on this spiritual journey is that patience and committment are two things you can never have too much of if you want to learn how to trust what you feel.

Take your time and remain curious, and your guides will help you strengthen your connection to the spirit world.

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Smudging 101 – getting rid of negativity!

With new year rapidly heading this way, have you considered how you’ll clear any heavy or unhelpful energy from 2017 so that you can start January off with a renewed sense of purpose? If you haven’t, smudging can often provide the clean up you’re looking for! There are various herbs people use to smudge, but the most common one and the smudge stick I go for is sage.

Smudging is used on anything that needs an energy cleanse so this could be your whole house, just a room, or even yourself! All you have to do to smudge is waft the smudge stick around the edges of the area you’re cleansing, whilst intending to clear the negativity. Then afterwards, you’re free to welcome in the new with whatever ritual serves you best. (Candles, crystals, vision boards etc) Some people call on guides to help as they move around the room, but most people treat smudging as they would any other housekeeping or maintenance task and simply get on with it whilst knowing the smoke is doing its job.

There is some debate about whether windows should be open as you waft sage around. I personally like to keep them shut, smudge my intended spaces, then open them again with the intention of welcoming in new, fresh energy. (The intention to welcome fresh energy is key to feeling the difference by the way.) Sage can smell too, so this doing it this way helps prevent the scent clinging onto soft furnishings for days on end, and can prevent headaches from the smoke sticking around.

Smudging is done whenever there is energy that needs cleansing or to signify a fresh start, so it’s perfect for key dates such as new years, or key life events such as when you move into a new home or space. Smudging new spaces will stop you picking up on negativity left behind by previous people but it also helps with your own soul growth! It’s a nice thing to do as part of a spring clean or as a way of getting out of a cycle of butting heads with the people you live with.

If you’re new to smudging you’ll want to know that sage really burns and so it’s advisable to hold a plate under your smudge stick that can take heat and won’t get hot quickly otherwise you’re likely to burn yourself or your property. You’re also unlikely to use all of your smudge stick first time around so having a place to put it out and let it cool is also a good idea.

Smudge sticks can be homemade if you have the talent, or purchased from your favourite new age shop. I bought mine from Waves of inspiration in Lee on the Solent, Hampshire 🙂

Do you have a different way of cleansing your space? Let me know in the comments below. In the meantime though, happy smudging and happy cleansing!

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Connecting to spirit with Selenite

When your crystal pals rave so hard about certain crystals, (Hollie Stark!) you know you’ve got to get your hands on them yourself! I’ve owned my beautiful Selenite for a couple of months now, but I wanted some time to really get working with it before I put up this post.

Selenite is said to be the crystal of choice for anyone wishing to raise their vibration in general. I found it to be a very soothing gem, and I credit it with calming my anxieties and smoothing over tension within myself particularly around my time of month when I generally have less patience than normal.

Selenite is said to help with opening the crown chakra, connecting with the angelic realm, seeing the bigger picture, and helping with clarity. This makes it the perfect crystal for anyone wishing to make connection with spirit, whether that’s with guides or angels. Of course you still need to put in the work, but I found that meditating with this, as well as sleeping with it under my pillow, made my connection to my guides feel a lot stronger. I could feel messages being passed through me with such certainty that the second guessing that is sometimes there during readings didn’t have a chance of tripping me up. (Being honest here, I do still question what comes through!)

As well as being beautiful, (though be careful – it does seem to chip!) Selenite is so powerfully in tune with loving source energy that it is now a perminant fixture by my bed and in my jewellery box. It takes everything you need for contacting spirit (trust, love, clarity, protection) and amplifies it to make angel and spirit connections far easier.

Don’t have a piece yet? Sign up to the your spiritual self newsletter on the top right of his post and you could win one! The draw is open worldwide, and the winner will be picked at random from all subscribers at the end of 2017. The crystal will be posted out to you in January.

Good luck!

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Dreams and psychic development

One of the challenges many of us have when developing our psychic abilities is silencing our inner chatter, thoughts and noise enough for the subtle guidance to come through. Whether you want to meet your spirit guide or connect with a loved one on the other side, night time can be an easy way of sinking into that peace you need to work with.

My first experience of receiving messages from spirit was through my dreams, (NB you’ll know you’re not dreaming – the energy and visions are just too intense! ) and from there, everything really started developing.

If you are someone who struggles to remember their dreams but would really like to be able to for the messages they can bring, here are 3 tools to help you out and help you turn your dreams into part of your spiritual practice so that you too can make the psychic connections you really want to develop.

Essential Oils are easy to get hold of these days and so very easy to use. You have the option of dabbing the oils straight onto your skin for a direct hit or, if you want to make a bottle stretch and have your room smelling wonderful, making up a spray for your pillow. Frankincense is a well known oil for helping its user raise their vibration and be more open to the spiritual realm which is an ideal boost when you want to increase your night visions or heighten your meditation time. The only catch with this one is it can be expensive although in my book, this oil is worth it for the magic it brings to the table. The higher our vibrations, the easier it is for us to connect with spirit and achieve our psychic development goals and Frankincense is THE oil to get you there.
As an added bonus, when you apply Frankincense directly onto the skin it is the best for reducing wrinkles too! If you are looking to clean up your skincare routine alongside becoming more spiritually aligned, this is the way to do it. (and a bottle lasts a very long time!)

Clary sage will calm you, relax you, and help you regulate hormones which all leads to better quality sleep and therefore, more vision time. It’s perfect as a compliment to Frankincense, or can be used on it’s own to help you drop off and stay snoozing. My friend Kristen will help you purchase your good quality oils (they have to be pure to work so stay away from the £2.99 specials!) when you check out her website with Young Living HERE.

Crystals help with just about every goal you have! Meditating with them before sleep or tucking them under your pillow will often help with dream recall which is half the battle when it comes to receiving spiritual messages at night. 2 crystals especially good for this type of work are Celestite and Herkimer diamond. Celestite is a very high vibration stone which helps it’s user connect with the angelic realm and stimulate clairvoyant abilities, whilst Herkimer diamond stimulates psychic abilities and clears any blocks which might be preventing the flow of spiritual energy.

Finally, when remembering dreams, time is of the essence! Before sleeping, say a little prayer and ask your guides to help you remember what you dream because setting intention is a huge part of being successful. Then have a pencil and notebook by your bed and write down what you remember as soon as you wake up. Even key words can help you recall when you go back to your notes at a later date.

Over time, even if you don’t get anything that makes sense straight away, you’ll slowly start to build a picture of how you dream and the types of symbols or spiritual messages you receive. Once you have this foundation you’ll be able not only to build on the information received by asking spirit for further clarification, but you’ll show your intention to communicate, which spirit will be keen to work with and will help you develop.

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Animal spirit guides, the black bear

Last week I watched Wild Alaska, a live documentary the BBC aired for us over the course of a week. One of the highlights for me was seeing a mummy black bear with her three cubs fishing for salmon. Aside from her beauty, she really spoke to me! Her job was to be a black bear doing what black bears do and I was really mesmerised by the awareness and mindfulness her energy presented.

Unlike us humans, she wasn’t concerned with what might happen tomorrow, how she was comparing to other black bears in the community or whether she was fulfilling her purpose as a bear, she was simply taking care of the moment and doing what she needed to do to feed her family and teach her cubs survival skills whilst the lesson was available.

I just loved her presence and her awareness of each moment and where she fitted in within nature.

So I looked up black bears as spirit animals!

If the black bear is your spirit animal (you’ll feel drawn to him) or shows up as a guide, he comes to represent power, strength, courage, awareness and grounding. If the black bear shows up to give you a sign within a dream or as you go about your daily business, he might be around to remind you of your ability to heal yourself and others, or to nudge you into living your life’s purpose as a healer.

Do you have an animal totem? What does it mean? Share in the comments below!

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What’s your spirit guide sign?

Do you want to learn to communicate with your spirit guide? Depending on what you want to get out of your connection, noticing your spirit guide’s presence can be really quite easy!

If you genuinely want to work with your spirit guides and form strong links for communication to flow, you really need to read this article on meditation and build the foundations of trust from the bottom up. The instructions in the post will help you build you a strong, solid connection which in turn will lead to enhanced spiritual growth and developed psychic and mediumship ability.

But if all you’re interested in is receiving proof you actually *have* a spirit guide, or you want a little confirmation of assistance before you put the hours of work in, consider asking your guides to send you a sign to signal their presence.

Your sign can be anything you choose, from images to songs to numbers. Blue hearts are one of my signs, as are strawberries! Then, when you’ve chosen, you just need to ask your guides to send you a visual of your image to say hello. (You make your guides aware of your request by sending a quick prayer to them.) Your sign will be shown to you in a very short amount of time, provided you keep your eyes open for it. This means staying in the moment and being present! Do you wander around caught up in the past or fretting about your future? This is your only barrier to receiving communication.

Once you’ve received your visual, you then have the opportunity to ask your spirit support team yes/no questions because they can send your sign to indicate a yes response. Taking this further, over time you might learn of something you hear, smell, see or sense when your guides are near and that’s when the connection really gets strong!

So have a go at this today! And let me know how quickly you get your confirmation of your guides presence!

I’m excited to hear your success stories, and I look forward to hearing what your sign is!

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