A few thoughts on manifesting

Manifesting has become a bit of a buzz word lately hasn’t it? We all want to believe in the possibility of having our hearts desires with very little effort.

I’ve been learning a lot about manifesting just recently because whilst I believe in the law of attraction and its ability to help us, I don’t think attracting happens unless you are completely open to it and ready to run with the results. This has meant I’ve started on a healing journey so I can open my heart and receive the abundance I would love.

Here’s what I’ve been learning:

Manifesting is always on whether you are choosing your manifestation or not. It isn’t something you switch on purely so you can get your hands on a new car!

Manifesting is just another word for receiving. Your success with manifesting is directly linked to what you feel worthy of receiving. And you are ALWAYS receiving something! (Is it what you want though?!)

Your subconscious mind ultimately decides whether you are successful or not. Its beliefs are formed before the age of 8 and if you don’t have positive beliefs around yourself and your ability, you will hold yourself back in some way, shape or form.

To change subconscious beliefs you must let your spirit (love) guide you rather than ego. To do this, learn to love yourself and believe you are worthy before you throw your heart into trying to bring forward what you want.

Want to know where to start with self love? This book by Louise Hay is awesome. (Book is clickable!)


I believe we have to feel deserving of what we want before it can come to us. Until we feel worthy, no number of affirmations will work, particularly if we’re anxious about the time frame we have to work in.

When we love ourselves and know without doubt we are part of an abundant universe, there is nothing we cannot experience. But the challenge is to get to this point so that we can see the results of our energy work.

Have you ever manifested a desire *without* self love being present?

Let me know your thoughts. And also what you’re manifesting next! Me? I would love an even stronger connection with spirit, more writing gigs, and more time on the Isle of Wight with the family 🙂

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What to do when life isn’t meeting your expectations

Do you ever feel as though life isn’t meeting your expectations? That life is flat, with nothing to look forward to?

Because when I feel like this, it’s because I’ve temporarily lost connection with my spirit. I’ve let chores take me away from my dreams, and I’ve let ego convince me I have to stay small and that there is no way out.

Luckily I know deep down that this is crap and that in order to get my sparkle back, I just have to turn my attention to where my ego thoughts are ruling!

If you feel life is missing something, here’s what to do and how to slowly build yourself back up again:

* Tap into your vision again. What are your goals? What does your dream life look like? This vision comes from your soul and needs to be lived if you want to feel peace. And if you don’t know where you’re going, it’s no wonder you feel lost! (If you need a reading, I am here!)
When you know your vision, take action on it. Some little steps every day will still boost you.

*Tap into your guidance. Your guides and angels will guide and heal you *if* you make space for them through daily meditation and you ask them to come through. What do you need help with? Ask spirit for support. Then trust. Don’t overthink or you’ll never let the guidance come.

*Tap into your connection with others. Find someone to help, and find someone to laugh with. We need to connect with others and feel as though we belong if we want to feel joy where we are.

*And finally, tap into the moment. Ground yourself with an affirmation, your breath, or a walk in nature. Don’t let fear of the future take you out of this moment. To feel safe you need to work with the power you have. This is always found right here in this second.

These things help me be present, but they also give me a reason to look forward to the future. They aren’t a one time fix however and this is where a lot of people go wrong! If you need to come back to this list several times a day to build the habit of connection, do it!

Only you can do the work, but you are most definitely worthy of the rewards once you get started. And once you do begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to be aware of when ego is trying to take you out!

Don’t let it!

Let your soul be your guide!

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What is my life purpose?

Do you see that subject line? It is the number one question I’m asked during readings, above even connecting with loved ones.

And the answer is really simple because there is no great life mystery we are expected to solve.

Your life’s purpose is to move towards what makes you feel good, and heal anything that comes up along the way.

That’s it.

If you know what you want already (which is what most people desire when they talk of finding purpose) then your job is to work on why you aren’t there yet, heal the blocks, and go for it.

If you *don’t* know what you want, then your purpose is to choose happiness and live in this state as frequently as possible in every way possible, healing the blocks that prevent you from doing this.

By choosing happy, you’re then working towards a state that’s open to bigger opportunity.

My guides tell me that there isn’t always one lone thing you’re supposed to find in order to feel fulfilled for the century you might be lucky enough to be here for, and that chasing fulfilment which might not be there can leave us feeling terrible. Instead, they say to live more for the joy of the moment, whilst knowing your joy might well have changed by next week anyway if you live your true purpose of allowing soul growth.

Does that help you relax the grip you have on purpose? (It’s ego holding on, not your spirit! )

What is it you want for yourself?
Are you working towards getting there?

Because if you choose happiness now, you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose of spiritual growing and learning, which means you’re right where you’re supposed to be regardless of what your outside world looks like.

If you find yourself resisting this idea consider which part of you is trying to run the show. Is it your light based spirit? Or is it your more fearful, controlling ego leading the way?

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Our Spiritual Selves

Our spiritual self is the part of us which leads us with love towards peace.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to let go of taking action because we’re scared not to, or scared of what people will think of us if we don’t do what’s expected.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop people pleasing for fear of being judged.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop playing small for fear of failure and yet more judgement…

Our spiritual self is the part of us which, when listened to, guides us to joy. It helps us hear our spirit guides, feel our angels, and learn of a whole new world full of love, healing and infinite possibilities.

Our spiritual self knows we are here on earth for a very short while, and have the ability to receive love from loved ones passed over.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which knows that EVERYTHING is possible for us if we will just show up with a positive attitude…

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But to gain all this we have to trust in our spiritual selves and be brave enough to live who we are. We have to stop letting ego run the show with it’s fear driven voice.

Do you know who you are?
Do you know how you want to feel?
Are you ready to receive the spiritual support our universe offers?

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Then:

*Trust that you are supported always and remember to ask your guides for help.
*Choose the fastest route to peace in each moment. Breathe! You have time.
*Take time to ask your spirit what it needs. Follow up on that!
*Follow what feels good. If it robs you of your peace, the price is too high.
*Meditate daily with the intention of connecting with spirit and nourishing your soul. Again, you have time.
*Set the intention to live connected to spirit. Don’t let ego keep you in fear. You are safe.
*Ground yourself with breath, sipping water, or being around nature. Be in this moment fully.
*Serve yourself by choosing peace and serve others by helping them get there too…

Let your spiritual self thrive!

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What’s next for you? What do you want that you haven’t let yourself have? What does that feel like? Are you ready to trust in your spirit?

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What if you feel you don’t belong?

Do you ever feel as though you don’t belong anywhere? Or that despite having people you care about around you, you don’t quite fit in with anyone in particular?

Well don’t panic! You feel this way because you remember your truth! Here is not home… the spirit realm is! We are here visiting Earth for a very short amount of time, and some of us are more sensitive to this knowledge than others!

Having said that, there are things you can do to feel more settled so that you don’t have to live in a permanent state of something missing for the next half of a decade. Grounding your energy is something you’ll forget to do at first, but is something which will decrease the ‘lost’ feeling if you stick at it.

Ready? Here goes:

1) Ground yourself often with breath work, food, sipping water, or walking barefoot in the grass or sand. All of these things help bring us back to the moment we are in.

2) Envision roots growing from under your feet as you plant yourself firmly in this energy plane. You are present and this is where you live for now.

3) Strengthen your root chakra by envisioning a red spinning disk of energy within the groin area. This will help root your energy.

4) Find your tribe and let them support you. Whatever you like doing, there’s an online group for it! You don’t have to be physically alone all of the time and laughing in particular is an amazing healer.

5) Carry grounding crystals. I like Hematite and Smoky Quartz for this.

6) Work with mantras when you find your mind floating. I adore ‘I am safe’ and ‘I am here’ to remind myself that I really only have ‘now’ to play with.

Do you struggle to belong? Do you have any more grounding tips to share?

The good news is that more of us are waking up. We might feel odd now, but odd is fast becoming the new normal!

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How can you serve your desires?

So tell me what’s missing in your life right now. Is it spiritual development? Career? Money? Something else entirely?

Are you done trying to force it to appear and magically transform your world?

Because what I’ve learnt from spirit in recent times is that everything is its own energetic entity, and that if we want to call it into our lives we have to ask it how we can serve it so that it can live its own purpose.

It took me a long time to really understand this concept because its so ‘out there’, but if we want to invite specific energy into our flow, whether that’s money or a change of direction, it stands to reason that we need to know what this new energy needs in order to move through us and be part of our experience because nothing can come in and merely stand still. We can only gain what we are a vibrational match for, and our desires need a purpose and a point of being with us before they can join us.

What I’ve learnt is that we serve ourselves by serving others and this applies to *all* energy, not just human interactions. We need to get comfortable with checking in with each desire and asking it how we can support it. This is a super fast way of changing our realities because our egos have to get out of the way and stop running the show! Then our spirit can lead with inspired action that feels good and actually progresses us!

Whatever it is you want to invite into your life, speak to it by either journaling or meditating, and asking during this quiet moment what your desire needs in order to flow through you. I tend to find journaling gives me the answer pretty quickly, and meditation holds space for the answer to find me as I move through the day.

What are you calling into your life? Do you know how to serve it when it comes to you?

Because if not, you’re telling spirit you’re not quite ready for it. And I’m pretty sure you don’t want to be doing that!

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How to feel grateful when you know you should feel it but don’t!

Whether we want to be happier, work the law of attraction, or see the bright side of a bad situation so our day isn’t ruined, we all know we’re supposed to feel gratitude. We’re supposed to make a note of all the good things in our lives and feel blessed. Then we’re supposed to put a smile on and appreciate life because we surely have it better than others…

But what if you don’t feel blessed? What if you’re saying the words but just don’t feel it despite outward signs of abundance? What then?

At times like this, I look at a picture of our beautiful solar system and the magic of life returns to me in an instant.

I feel humble when I look at images of our galaxy and note how huge it is and how insignificant I am. The earth is made up of the perfect conditions for humans and animals to thrive alike, yet nobody really knows why it all happened or how. It’s a magical mystery to us why the earth has been created with the designs it has, right next to the moon and the sun which we also need for survival.

Seeing our earth or our moon, surrounded by stars or atmospheric clouds reminds me of how blessed I am to be part of this magic and how blessed I am that food, water, shelter and clothing have all been provided for me so I can take part in this wonder. I start to see my day as a gift… One which other people won’t be getting this morning because their time is through. I’m reminded that it’s my responsibility to help the planet thrive, by helping others, looking after nature, and tending the planet as she needs it. She is special, and abusing her is abusing ourselves. I’m reminded of what an absolute absolute privilege it is to see nature working for us, and I see the sky, the trees, a spider web or a daisy in a new light when I head outside. What I get to see is magic before my eyes.

You may not really feel grateful for your iPod or your microwave and you might not feel too impressed with having to jump on the bus and head to work each day but how can it fail to move you when you start thinking about all that had to happen to create the unique being that is you? It wasn’t just your parents creating you but the generations before them and everything the earth offered *them* so they might thrive enough to produce a new generation of thinkers. It was the sky, the rain fall, food, the temperature, the shelter of the trees and our brains developing day by day which all contributed to human life evolving. It was mother nature offering her arms of protection so we might be here today with our internet connection and central heating. We must never forget how an evolving ton of stardust made our lives today possible.

So next time you feel low, get humble. You play a very small part in what is otherwise an intricately designed home. You are blessed to take your place in the complex structure that is our solar system and you get to choose today whether you will make a difference or whether you will take your place for granted. Which will you do? Will you appreciate the opportunities you have today and take part in all the opportunities the world has to offer?

I know I will. Today I feel blessed to be part of the magic. I really hope you do too 🙂

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How to be happier

Can we talk mindfulness this week? It seems to be a buzz word we all throw around as something we ought to practice more of but don’t!

This past week I have been moving from task to task more mindfully. I have been stopping myself every few minutes to check what I’m thinking, and I’ve been amazed at what I’ve learned about myself.

Had you asked me 2 weeks ago whether I was a positive person I’d have said yes! But what I’ve learned recently is that I do most of my life on autopilot, with very little feeling of gratitude. Perhaps this is why life for me is so very often average… I have nothing to complain about but I don’t launch out of bed in excitement each morning either.

How does life look for you? Are you like me, stuck in the same rut, day in, day out? Is life pleasant enough but not all that exciting? If so, what’s missing is mindfulness and the opportunity to practice gratitude that mindfulness brings.

Every moment gives us a chance to be grateful about *something* which is happening for us. The trouble is, 99% of what we do is done without thinking. We don’t give thanks for our legs when we walk out the door. We don’t give thanks for the ease at which we can buy breakfast. We don’t give thanks for safe roads as we commute and we don’t give thanks for the hot water and cosmetics which allow us to feel good as we show up for work. We sit at a desk without feeling gratitude for the comfort of our chair and we drink coffee without feeling thankful for our tastebuds. I could go on but you get the picture I hope!

So this week I would like to challenge you to pause every 5 minutes to check what you’re thinking. Are you practicing gratitude as you should be? Because if you’re not, don’t be surprised when life feels bland.

We have opportunities at any given moment to appreciate life and if we choose not to focus on appreciating, it’s no wonder we miss the miracles. I think as you have a go at this mindfulness challenge you’ll be surprised at how frequently you forget to check your thoughts and how often the hours pass by as you ‘get on’ with things without really registering how amazing your life truly is!

Have a go at increasing your happiness by taking time to be grateful. Imagine how fab life could appear if you found something to be thankful for every five minutes… You’d struggle to find time for too many negative moments!

Just so you know, being mindful also increases your chances of noticing your intuition coming through and your guides communicating with you.

If happiness isn’t enough, that in itself makes life a bit magical doesn’t it? 😉

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Relationships are a spiritual assignment

No matter how good you have it, there is always at least one person annoying you. Does that statement ring true for you?

That’s because relationships are spiritual assignments.

People are sent to us for all kinds of reasons. Whilst some friends and family offer love, support and friendship, plenty of relationships offer us the chance to better ourselves. Some relationships give us the chance to grow as people by teaching us life lessons, and others are provided as stepping stones towards other people or situations we need in order to enter the next phase of our lives.

Whenever we are given a relationship, we are being given the chance to address something within ourselves which long term will allow us to better ourselves in some way, either by giving more to ourselves or giving more to others. There is a gift in every encounter, and there’s always a chance to learn something. Sometimes the lesson is a deep and difficult one such as how to forgive in order to help ourselves, but other times we’re simply offered the chance to learn how to rely on ourselves more, or given the opportunity to explore why we’re drawn to unsuitable people who use us and make us feel bad. Maybe a relationship is given to us because we need to learn how to be more at peace or simply how to understand another point of view…

The key to accepting people where they are and learning from whatever we’re given, particularly when a relationship goes wrong is to understand that everyone is here on earth to learn, and that relationships both with others and with self is how we do it. We must understand that it is not personal when others wrong us, they are simply learning as we are. Their actions speak only about where they are themselves, and have absolutely no reflection on our own personal worth.

When somebody upsets you for any reason, ask yourself how they are making you feel, then ask what you can learn from the experience. Are you really a failure? Can you let go of that insecurity or jealousy you have by working on YOU to make YOU feel better? Can you accept who THEY are? Do you need to walk away and allow someone else to offer you more? Do you feel worthy of receiving more? If not, why not? Do you need to take up the reins a bit more? Maybe you don’t! Maybe you’ve tried to control others a little too much!

Relationships always give us the chance to grow which is why we often lose one unworthy partner only to replace him and face the same issues with somebody new. It is why we feel frustration when we can’t control our children and also feel frustration when our sister won’t do what we want, and it is why we feel useless at the hands of our parents and then go on to pick a boss who also belittles us… The same dramas repeatedly show up when we refuse to address them!

But it is never about them and always about us and how honest we are willing to be with ourselves about how we really feel and what we need to do to heal that feeling…

Which relationship is your biggest challenge right now? And what does this tell you about you…?

Let me know your thoughts!

With love,

X

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The magic of intention

I spoke to somebody last week who is working on meeting her spirit guide. She came to me for a few lessons because she’d not been enjoying success in her attempts to connect. We spoke about her methods and her feelings about spirit and, long story short, it transpired that she wasn’t meditating more than once a week (usually less) and that she didn’t really believe a guide was waiting for her to speak with. Because of this belief, she wasn’t expecting anything when she did sit down to the occasional meditation.

She’s allowed me to blog this because it may be the one thing holding you back from your own spiritual connection too.

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You see, no matter what you do or what you want to achieve, your intention plays a big part in your success. If you have a strong intention to connect with your spirit guide, be happy, learn to speak Russian or declutter the house, you’re going to get there sooner or later. If you don’t believe it’s possible though, you’re not going to put the time in. You’ll not see results and then you’ll justify your lack of progress. It is impossible to set a positive intention if deep down you don’t believe you will see success.

Your intention makes all the difference

Do you have a goal or a desire? If so, set the intention to move towards your end result regardless of what it takes. Don’t hold back or put obstacles in the way, at least not if your intention to achieve is strong. (Is it?) Decide right now that you are going to make it, step by step and choice by choice.

Perhaps your goal is to feel differently, to be happier or worry less. In which case it’s time to declare your intention to feel calmer and more joyful. If you don’t, your environment will dictate your mood and take you out. You get to choose how you feel based on how committed you are to feeling it.

Maybe you want to stay peaceful as you move through a stressful day. Maybe you want your spirit guides to direct you bit by bit. Maybe you want to connect with a loved one on the other side. Intention is what makes the difference between achieving these things and feeling dispondent. You have to believe in your ability and then set the intention to uncover what you need to know before strengthening your skills. Without these things your guides know your heart isn’t ready to put the work in yet and connecting isn’t really your intention at all. (Is it any wonder you don’t hear them?)

It took me a fair while to realise that happiness and gratitude are a choice. There is always the choice of feeling better than you do and it’s achieved by looking for a better focus. This is probably one of my biggest life lessons – that life is what you make it and you make it better by your strong intentions.

Intention… One word which can set you up strong or have you waste your time in fluffy half hearted progress. Are you determined when it comes to what you desire?

Just so you know… The girl I’ve been speaking with hasn’t managed to meet her guide so far but she IS feeling more connected and she IS waiting patiently because she knows what she wants and she’s intending to achieve it. She’s committed to her daily meditation practise now too, sending a clear signal out that she knows what she wants.

What do you want for yourself? Have you set your intention today?

Love as always 🙂

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