Category Archives: Positivity

Making affirmations work for you

I’m reading this book right now about self talk. It’s a topic I love because what we say to ourselves influences what happens to us next in everything from spiritual healing to random stuff such as choosing new clothes.

The trouble is, we’re not always aware of what we’re saying to ourselves! The inner chatter goes on subconsciously and whilst we might think we’re taking no notice, our subconscious minds are taking it all on board.

This is why affirmations are so amazing at turning our talk (and in turn our experiences) around. You don’t have to take my word for it; quantum physics proves this if you care to explore the topic.

Affirmations work in two ways. First, they let us control the beliefs we feed ourselves which gives us a chance to choose more positively and set our intentions up right and secondly, when our minds tell us they are resisting the affirmation by pushing us to not believe or to reject what we are saying, it gives us the opportunity to heal the negativity coming up.

People go wrong with affirmations because they expect a quick fix. In reality, every negative belief has had potential decades to strengthen and therefore needs a lot of undoing.

So if you are trying to believe you are wealthy for example, it may not be enough to declare yourself rich. Instead, you might need to heal your worthiness, your belief in your value, your belief in your ability to earn and contribute, your belief that money is good… there could be any number of reasons why you struggle initially to identify with a wealthy person.

It’s not enough to be positive, we have to heal the rest too.

What are you affirming right now? Let me know what’s not working and whether I can help you feel more clarity. x

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Working with forgiveness

I am working towards forgiving two people in my life right now and I say working towards because I feel many of us expect miracles when it comes to forgiving. We expect to declare that it’s all forgotten, and then wonder why we’re still quietly festering and can’t let it go.

Forgiveness lightens our load, frees us, and gives us the opportunity to feel relief as light floods us. Forgiving means we aren’t wasting time feeling anger which wrecks our bodies, or taking time away from positive thoughts which could actually help us progress in life if we paid attention to what our inner guidance wants us to know.

But forgiveness isn’t an instant occurrence and in my experience, it’s a challenging thing to attempt which feels harder the closer the person is to us!

Instead, forgiveness is a choice we make. It’s a road we choose to take and like any journey, it happens step by step.

We constantly have to remind ourselves of our forgiveness choice, and let the issues heal layer by layer. It doesn’t happen overnight, but each time we come back to forgiveness, we heal a little more.

Cord cutting can help with letting issues and even people go. See my Archangel Michael post if you need guidance, Or check out Karl Gray’s book on releasing below if you need a little more. Karl Gray is the go-to angel expert, and anything he writes is awesome πŸ™‚



If you are in the middle of trying to forgive somebody right now, please don’t stress. You’ve made the decision to try to heal this part of you, and it may just take a little time. Go easy on yourself, you are doing the best you can.

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What an empath really is!

I have a confession to make.

I see the world and it’s mother declaring themselves empathic, and I just want to shout!

Because we have got to a stage in the spiritual shift where it’s become cool to declare you ‘Feel all of the feels’, ‘Can’t go into busy places because of feeling overwhelmed’, and that you ‘See through the other person’s bulls**t’.

And whilst that might make you sensitive, it doesn’t necessarily make you empathic.

Empaths take on EVERYTHING from EVERYONE unless they are very, very good at grounding, healing and releasing. What this means is this: If you think you are empathic but haven’t been doing these things, you are very likely very ill or very mad. No joke! What I’ve seen is that natural empaths don’t tend to know they have a title… they are simply working in jobs like teaching and nursing, and quietly making a massive difference.

But if you think you’re an empath and want to claim the title, then you have work to do!

●Sensitivity develops before empathy does and your progression is dependent on whether you’re ready to put the work in, and whether you’re ready to go where spirit wants you to work.

● Empaths connect with spiritual guidance all of the time because they have been given the job of healing others in order to heal the world. Make sure you are connecting, and actively working to make a difference.

● When you feel all the energy, separate the good and bad, work out what is coming from where, ask spirit for help in helping these people if they want the help, and release the energy. If you can’t release it, ask spirit what you need to do.

● Quite often you’ll have physical pain that doesn’t belong to you. You need to work with it, as you’re taking it on to soothe another person. Always ask ‘Is this mine?’

● Know that you work for spirit. Commit to it. There’s no point in being empathic if you don’t use it to be the difference.’

● Ground ALL of the time, otherwise this work will take you out. Cleanse, too. Your energy needs to be clear not only to help yourself, but so that when new feels come in, you know where it’s coming from and whether you need to heal it, learn from it or release it.

● Cut back on the drinking and the junk food. People need you well. Sleep as many hours in a night as you can.

● Animals will ask for your help too! The bad leg you have? That might be pain you’re taking on for your dog! You have to be centred and aware as much as possible so that you can hear spirit when your guides connect you with the source of your feels. It IS exhausting! Be compassionate though β™‘

● The upsetting news report you’ve just watched? It’s not there to hurt you, it’s there to MOVE you! How are you going to heal that pain? Support the victims? Donate money? Become a voice? Write to your MP? Clean up your community? Teach a skill…?

The biggest difference betweeen an empath and a sensitive person is the work they put in. Empaths don’t just feel a bit of sadness, they move to heal it!

Which one are you? Come and join our facebook group group if you’d like support as you work… Because if you really are an empath, so many people are relying on you to step up and shine your healing light just now β™‘

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A few thoughts on manifesting

Manifesting has become a bit of a buzz word lately hasn’t it? We all want to believe in the possibility of having our hearts desires with very little effort.

I’ve been learning a lot about manifesting just recently because whilst I believe in the law of attraction and its ability to help us, I don’t think attracting happens unless you are completely open to it and ready to run with the results. This has meant I’ve started on a healing journey so I can open my heart and receive the abundance I would love.

Here’s what I’ve been learning:

Manifesting is always on whether you are choosing your manifestation or not. It isn’t something you switch on purely so you can get your hands on a new car!

Manifesting is just another word for receiving. Your success with manifesting is directly linked to what you feel worthy of receiving. And you are ALWAYS receiving something! (Is it what you want though?!)

Your subconscious mind ultimately decides whether you are successful or not. Its beliefs are formed before the age of 8 and if you don’t have positive beliefs around yourself and your ability, you will hold yourself back in some way, shape or form.

To change subconscious beliefs you must let your spirit (love) guide you rather than ego. To do this, learn to love yourself and believe you are worthy before you throw your heart into trying to bring forward what you want.

Want to know where to start with self love? This book by Louise Hay is awesome. (Book is clickable!)


I believe we have to feel deserving of what we want before it can come to us. Until we feel worthy, no number of affirmations will work, particularly if we’re anxious about the time frame we have to work in.

When we love ourselves and know without doubt we are part of an abundant universe, there is nothing we cannot experience. But the challenge is to get to this point so that we can see the results of our energy work.

Have you ever manifested a desire *without* self love being present?

Let me know your thoughts. And also what you’re manifesting next! Me? I would love an even stronger connection with spirit, more writing gigs, and more time on the Isle of Wight with the family πŸ™‚

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What to do when life isn’t meeting your expectations

Do you ever feel as though life isn’t meeting your expectations? That life is flat, with nothing to look forward to?

Because when I feel like this, it’s because I’ve temporarily lost connection with my spirit. I’ve let chores take me away from my dreams, and I’ve let ego convince me I have to stay small and that there is no way out.

Luckily I know deep down that this is crap and that in order to get my sparkle back, I just have to turn my attention to where my ego thoughts are ruling!

If you feel life is missing something, here’s what to do and how to slowly build yourself back up again:

* Tap into your vision again. What are your goals? What does your dream life look like? This vision comes from your soul and needs to be lived if you want to feel peace. And if you don’t know where you’re going, it’s no wonder you feel lost! (If you need a reading, I am here!)
When you know your vision, take action on it. Some little steps every day will still boost you.

*Tap into your guidance. Your guides and angels will guide and heal you *if* you make space for them through daily meditation and you ask them to come through. What do you need help with? Ask spirit for support. Then trust. Don’t overthink or you’ll never let the guidance come.

*Tap into your connection with others. Find someone to help, and find someone to laugh with. We need to connect with others and feel as though we belong if we want to feel joy where we are.

*And finally, tap into the moment. Ground yourself with an affirmation, your breath, or a walk in nature. Don’t let fear of the future take you out of this moment. To feel safe you need to work with the power you have. This is always found right here in this second.

These things help me be present, but they also give me a reason to look forward to the future. They aren’t a one time fix however and this is where a lot of people go wrong! If you need to come back to this list several times a day to build the habit of connection, do it!

Only you can do the work, but you are most definitely worthy of the rewards once you get started. And once you do begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to be aware of when ego is trying to take you out!

Don’t let it!

Let your soul be your guide!

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What is my life purpose?

Do you see that subject line? It is the number one question I’m asked during readings, above even connecting with loved ones.

And the answer is really simple because there is no great life mystery we are expected to solve.

Your life’s purpose is to move towards what makes you feel good, and heal anything that comes up along the way.

That’s it.

If you know what you want already (which is what most people desire when they talk of finding purpose) then your job is to work on why you aren’t there yet, heal the blocks, and go for it.

If you *don’t* know what you want, then your purpose is to choose happiness and live in this state as frequently as possible in every way possible, healing the blocks that prevent you from doing this.

By choosing happy, you’re then working towards a state that’s open to bigger opportunity.

My guides tell me that there isn’t always one lone thing you’re supposed to find in order to feel fulfilled for the century you might be lucky enough to be here for, and that chasing fulfilment which might not be there can leave us feeling terrible. Instead, they say to live more for the joy of the moment, whilst knowing your joy might well have changed by next week anyway if you live your true purpose of allowing soul growth.

Does that help you relax the grip you have on purpose? (It’s ego holding on, not your spirit! )

What is it you want for yourself?
Are you working towards getting there?

Because if you choose happiness now, you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose of spiritual growing and learning, which means you’re right where you’re supposed to be regardless of what your outside world looks like.

If you find yourself resisting this idea consider which part of you is trying to run the show. Is it your light based spirit? Or is it your more fearful, controlling ego leading the way?

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Our Spiritual Selves

Our spiritual self is the part of us which leads us with love towards peace.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to let go of taking action because we’re scared not to, or scared of what people will think of us if we don’t do what’s expected.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop people pleasing for fear of being judged.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop playing small for fear of failure and yet more judgement…

Our spiritual self is the part of us which, when listened to, guides us to joy. It helps us hear our spirit guides, feel our angels, and learn of a whole new world full of love, healing and infinite possibilities.

Our spiritual self knows we are here on earth for a very short while, and have the ability to receive love from loved ones passed over.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which knows that EVERYTHING is possible for us if we will just show up with a positive attitude…

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But to gain all this we have to trust in our spiritual selves and be brave enough to live who we are. We have to stop letting ego run the show with it’s fear driven voice.

Do you know who you are?
Do you know how you want to feel?
Are you ready to receive the spiritual support our universe offers?

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Then:

*Trust that you are supported always and remember to ask your guides for help.
*Choose the fastest route to peace in each moment. Breathe! You have time.
*Take time to ask your spirit what it needs. Follow up on that!
*Follow what feels good. If it robs you of your peace, the price is too high.
*Meditate daily with the intention of connecting with spirit and nourishing your soul. Again, you have time.
*Set the intention to live connected to spirit. Don’t let ego keep you in fear. You are safe.
*Ground yourself with breath, sipping water, or being around nature. Be in this moment fully.
*Serve yourself by choosing peace and serve others by helping them get there too…

Let your spiritual self thrive!

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What’s next for you? What do you want that you haven’t let yourself have? What does that feel like? Are you ready to trust in your spirit?

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What if you feel you don’t belong?

Do you ever feel as though you don’t belong anywhere? Or that despite having people you care about around you, you don’t quite fit in with anyone in particular?

Well don’t panic! You feel this way because you remember your truth! Here is not home… the spirit realm is! We are here visiting Earth for a very short amount of time, and some of us are more sensitive to this knowledge than others!

Having said that, there are things you can do to feel more settled so that you don’t have to live in a permanent state of something missing for the next half of a decade. Grounding your energy is something you’ll forget to do at first, but is something which will decrease the ‘lost’ feeling if you stick at it.

Ready? Here goes:

1) Ground yourself often with breath work, food, sipping water, or walking barefoot in the grass or sand. All of these things help bring us back to the moment we are in.

2) Envision roots growing from under your feet as you plant yourself firmly in this energy plane. You are present and this is where you live for now.

3) Strengthen your root chakra by envisioning a red spinning disk of energy within the groin area. This will help root your energy.

4) Find your tribe and let them support you. Whatever you like doing, there’s an online group for it! You don’t have to be physically alone all of the time and laughing in particular is an amazing healer.

5) Carry grounding crystals. I like Hematite and Smoky Quartz for this.

6) Work with mantras when you find your mind floating. I adore ‘I am safe’ and ‘I am here’ to remind myself that I really only have ‘now’ to play with.

Do you struggle to belong? Do you have any more grounding tips to share?

The good news is that more of us are waking up. We might feel odd now, but odd is fast becoming the new normal!

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How can you serve your desires?

So tell me what’s missing in your life right now. Is it spiritual development? Career? Money? Something else entirely?

Are you done trying to force it to appear and magically transform your world?

Because what I’ve learnt from spirit in recent times is that everything is its own energetic entity, and that if we want to call it into our lives we have to ask it how we can serve it so that it can live its own purpose.

It took me a long time to really understand this concept because its so ‘out there’, but if we want to invite specific energy into our flow, whether that’s money or a change of direction, it stands to reason that we need to know what this new energy needs in order to move through us and be part of our experience because nothing can come in and merely stand still. We can only gain what we are a vibrational match for, and our desires need a purpose and a point of being with us before they can join us.

What I’ve learnt is that we serve ourselves by serving others and this applies to *all* energy, not just human interactions. We need to get comfortable with checking in with each desire and asking it how we can support it. This is a super fast way of changing our realities because our egos have to get out of the way and stop running the show! Then our spirit can lead with inspired action that feels good and actually progresses us!

Whatever it is you want to invite into your life, speak to it by either journaling or meditating, and asking during this quiet moment what your desire needs in order to flow through you. I tend to find journaling gives me the answer pretty quickly, and meditation holds space for the answer to find me as I move through the day.

What are you calling into your life? Do you know how to serve it when it comes to you?

Because if not, you’re telling spirit you’re not quite ready for it. And I’m pretty sure you don’t want to be doing that!

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5 crystals to boost skin health

If you’ve ever seen me in real life you’ll know my beauty routine doesn’t cover much more than a good wash and a spot of mascara. But if you’re more inclined to embrace looking your best and are on the quest for flawless skin, once again the crystals have got your back!


Fluorite is one of my favourite crystals for helping to clear mindless thoughts and gain clarity, but did you know it could also help you wrinkle less? Perhaps this is because more clarity equals less stress! The Fluorite above can be purchased at Charlottes Crystal Cabin. Isn’t it stunning?

Green Selenite helps to overcome the effects of aging on the skin. I sleep with this one under my pillow as it’s also very calming.

Yellow Apatite (above) helps with cell renewal, something which keeps our skin looking fresh. It also helps dissolve cellulite, not that you have any of course! As well as these things, Yellow Apatite is also said to boost psychic abilities πŸ™‚

Rhodonite is an emotions healer, particularly good for soothing anger and aiding with forgiveness. This in itself reduces stress which helps us to stay young, but as an added bonus, Rhodonite is also said to help lessen the appearance of scarring.


And finally Carnelian (one of my favourite uplifting crystals), is said to stimulate the metabolism to help burn unwanted fat, and is also believed to help the body absorb more of the vitamins from your diet so that you can glow with vitality. As a bonus alongside making you beautiful, Carnelian will also boost your financial abundance! The Carnelian above can also be purchased at Charlottes Crystal Cabin.

I would suggest sleeping with these crystals near your bed, wearing them in jewellery, or meditating with them to have them work for you. Some crystals such as Selenite don’t like water, so be mindful of that before making infused drinks or bathing with them.

Do you have these crystals in your collection? What do you use them for? I’d love to get the crystal chat going ♥

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