Last week I shared a post explaining what I do to get grateful when I’m not feeling it. I wanted to share the post because unless we’re very lucky, life isn’t mind blowingly exciting all of the time and for most of us, living in awe doesn’t come naturally.
The post was really well received and I had a lot of great feedback but I also received a message from someone who has depression and feels too low to be looking around in wonder regardless of the miracles the rest of us assure her are there. She asked me what *she* should do to feel happier and I thought it would be nice to share my answer here.
I believe self love is the best cure for anyone suffering with low moods. How we speak to ourselves and how we treat ourselves shapes our worlds, and our uncaring self habits tear us down on a daily basis and we’re not even aware of it.
Anyone who feels life is not doing it for them should look inwards first and see what they are telling themselves about their own life. Then they should find the most loving statement they can, and meditate on it daily for at least a month so that spiritual healing can begin. When we meditate with a mantra, our words either throw up what needs to be healed, or we start to feel better. I like ‘I love myself and I love the world’ as a general feel good affirmation but if you’re not there yet, try ‘I’m willing to learn to love myself’ or ‘I appreciate the strength I’m showing as I work towards feeling better’. Whatever makes you feel better is where your attention should be.
Self love mantras are not quick fixes. They are designed to lift you step by step over a period of time but they *do* work if you put effort into noticing your negative thoughts and replace them with a general but more positive statement. Consistency in using them is key but they work best when you are open to them working, so a trip to the doctor, an exercise programme, good sleep or a decent diet all might help you get to that place. Don’t struggle alone.
Alongside the mantras, taking time every day to look after YOU is a good idea. Give yourself some kindness by making space in the day for a quiet cuppa, going for a swim, or enjoying a good book. Most DEFINITELY get into the habit of praising yourself for your daily wins. Notice when you’ve done a fab job, helped someone or contributed. If something has gone well, give yourself a pat on the back.
Notice your thoughts and you’ll be in a good place to change. Are your thoughts negative? If so, your life is going to be tarnished by them.
You may not feel like challenging your thoughts straight away but if you start with thought awareness, you might just find you can begin, over time, to notice when you have been overly harsh, overly critical, or overly influenced by your current mood. You might even be able to give your thoughts over to your depression and know it’s not your true self shining through.
What are you telling yourself today? Could you find a better statement? 🙂