What to do when life isn’t meeting your expectations

Do you ever feel as though life isn’t meeting your expectations? That life is flat, with nothing to look forward to?

Because when I feel like this, it’s because I’ve temporarily lost connection with my spirit. I’ve let chores take me away from my dreams, and I’ve let ego convince me I have to stay small and that there is no way out.

Luckily I know deep down that this is crap and that in order to get my sparkle back, I just have to turn my attention to where my ego thoughts are ruling!

If you feel life is missing something, here’s what to do and how to slowly build yourself back up again:

* Tap into your vision again. What are your goals? What does your dream life look like? This vision comes from your soul and needs to be lived if you want to feel peace. And if you don’t know where you’re going, it’s no wonder you feel lost! (If you need a reading, I am here!)
When you know your vision, take action on it. Some little steps every day will still boost you.

*Tap into your guidance. Your guides and angels will guide and heal you *if* you make space for them through daily meditation and you ask them to come through. What do you need help with? Ask spirit for support. Then trust. Don’t overthink or you’ll never let the guidance come.

*Tap into your connection with others. Find someone to help, and find someone to laugh with. We need to connect with others and feel as though we belong if we want to feel joy where we are.

*And finally, tap into the moment. Ground yourself with an affirmation, your breath, or a walk in nature. Don’t let fear of the future take you out of this moment. To feel safe you need to work with the power you have. This is always found right here in this second.

These things help me be present, but they also give me a reason to look forward to the future. They aren’t a one time fix however and this is where a lot of people go wrong! If you need to come back to this list several times a day to build the habit of connection, do it!

Only you can do the work, but you are most definitely worthy of the rewards once you get started. And once you do begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to be aware of when ego is trying to take you out!

Don’t let it!

Let your soul be your guide!

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Receiving messages from loved ones in spirit

I’ve been asked a few questions lately about receiving messages from loved ones in spirit. It seems you all know about meditating and developing intuition, and now you want step by step instructions so that you can actually start a conversation with spirit and develop your own mediumship skills. (I like this, we all have the ability buried somewhere! )

So let me give you 3 steps here to help you get you started with actually receiving meaningful information. And if you’re a medium already, feel free to add any comments!

Step one is to decide how you’re working. Do you have a powerful connection with your spirit guide and want them to relay the message? Or are you happy to let spirits come straight to you? Knowing who you’re talking to gives clarity. (Reminder: Set your boundaries by telling spirit, via prayer, when you are closed for connection as being woken up at 3am by a spirit who wants a chat can get tiring! )

Step two is to know how you want to receive these messages. Are you a strong in meditation and able to sit for an hour? Are you trying to develop instant raport in order to give client readings in the future? Are you better at receiving when you’re writing down what you receive? Or does dream work appeal most? (Many people start developing through dreams; I did.)
Know which method appeals most, and give your time to developing your skill. Once you are confident in your mediumship, you can develop the other methods with more ease since you’ll know more about what to expect.

Step three is to get into your zone of receiving, then know what you want to ask. Have a list of questions to ask the spirit you are connecting with, otherwise you might not receive too much. (Asking them for a shared memory is a nice way of confirming you are connected with the correct spirit)

Trust your intuition on this and don’t let ego tell you that you have to work a certain way. Do what is easiest for you whilst knowing the other skills will follow in time.

It’s almost as difficult or as easy as this to speak with spirit.

This isn’t an over night development however, so don’t be discouraged if the road is a long one.

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What is my life purpose?

Do you see that subject line? It is the number one question I’m asked during readings, above even connecting with loved ones.

And the answer is really simple because there is no great life mystery we are expected to solve.

Your life’s purpose is to move towards what makes you feel good, and heal anything that comes up along the way.

That’s it.

If you know what you want already (which is what most people desire when they talk of finding purpose) then your job is to work on why you aren’t there yet, heal the blocks, and go for it.

If you *don’t* know what you want, then your purpose is to choose happiness and live in this state as frequently as possible in every way possible, healing the blocks that prevent you from doing this.

By choosing happy, you’re then working towards a state that’s open to bigger opportunity.

My guides tell me that there isn’t always one lone thing you’re supposed to find in order to feel fulfilled for the century you might be lucky enough to be here for, and that chasing fulfilment which might not be there can leave us feeling terrible. Instead, they say to live more for the joy of the moment, whilst knowing your joy might well have changed by next week anyway if you live your true purpose of allowing soul growth.

Does that help you relax the grip you have on purpose? (It’s ego holding on, not your spirit! )

What is it you want for yourself?
Are you working towards getting there?

Because if you choose happiness now, you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose of spiritual growing and learning, which means you’re right where you’re supposed to be regardless of what your outside world looks like.

If you find yourself resisting this idea consider which part of you is trying to run the show. Is it your light based spirit? Or is it your more fearful, controlling ego leading the way?

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Don’t let ego ruin your development

When I first started out on my mediumship journey I wanted to believe that every little bump in the night was spirit. I was desperate to be able to say that I was tuned in and developing fast so that I too could claim I was a gifted person.

I tell you this now because I get a lot of emails from people on their own development path. They tell me things have happened or that they’ve heard things, and they share with me how convinced they are that spirit is trying to catch their attention.

Of course some people really will be receiving visits from spirit! Spirit will bang doors, turn on lights, set off toys and make phones ring, and it’s good to be aware of these things! But equally, these things happen ‘just because’, and if we get caught up in believing every little sound is Great Aunt Beryl calling in for tea, we’re going to lose the ability to develop further.

If you’re here, it’s because you want to connect with spirit so in order to help you I need to say in the nicest possible way, don’t let ego tell you you are special because you’ve heard the odd noise. Instead, simply be aware of it and perhaps journal it. Then, spend some time meditating. See what your spiritual self feels about what you’re hearing. Ask your guides to give you details about who is with you and what they want. Have a go at tuning into the energy. Do you feel anything? Document it. Then connect again and ask for more. Connect again. Ask for clarification. Ask for your questions to be answered one by one…

And if you don’t get anything? Keep meditating, keep holding space for spirit, and keep trusting you *will* develop when the time is right.

Connecting to spirit takes time, as does interpreting what you’re given. Our goal here isn’t to get too excited because you’ve heard a bang, but to learn what that bang might mean. Is it simply a change in energy or temperature? Is it a loved one around? Is your guide offering you a calling card? What does it all mean to you?

One thing I’ve learned on this spiritual journey is that patience and committment are two things you can never have too much of if you want to learn how to trust what you feel.

Take your time and remain curious, and your guides will help you strengthen your connection to the spirit world.

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Agate, Carnelian, Moldavite and Larimar.

Over the summer holidays we took a day trip to Swanage. We went mostly for the beach and the ice cream, but there is a lovely little crystal shop there called Natural Wonders which entices me in every time I visit.

On the counter as I walked in was a beautiful blue lace agate bracelet which just called to me. I initially walked past, but then went back to it. Blue lace agate is a calming crystal for me, but it also helps with self expression, particularly when it comes to fear we might have around being judged. This crystal helps heal the throat area, and is linked to the throat chakra.

Next up was a piece of moldavite. Now I know this piece is not pure due to its low price and it’s calcite description but I’m going to work with it and see what it does anyway! Pure moldavite raises vibration, enhances spiritual skills, deepens development, sharpens intuition and throws all the issues you need to address to the surface! Basically, it enhances everything!!

Carnelian was my third choice. I have some carnelian already, but the colour of this one caught my eye. Carnelian is said to aid with creativity, motivation, concentration and perception. As I’m writing this I’m thinking it might be a good crystal for a writer to work with. Carnelian is also said to boost metabolism.

Finally, I was drawn to a piece of larimar. (My second piece!) Larimar is said to be great for healing past life issues, and for enhancing spiritual growth. It is a bringer of peace and love, and is said to help its user release feelings of fear and guilt. I am using this crystal at the moment to work through soul issues I’ve carried over from previous lives.

Where is your local crystal shop? Have you purchased anything pretty lately? Let me know in the comments! X

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Dreams and psychic development

One of the challenges many of us have when developing our psychic abilities is silencing our inner chatter, thoughts and noise enough for the subtle guidance to come through. Whether you want to meet your spirit guide or connect with a loved one on the other side, night time can be an easy way of sinking into that peace you need to work with.

My first experience of receiving messages from spirit was through my dreams, (NB you’ll know you’re not dreaming – the energy and visions are just too intense! ) and from there, everything really started developing.

If you are someone who struggles to remember their dreams but would really like to be able to for the messages they can bring, here are 3 tools to help you out and help you turn your dreams into part of your spiritual practice so that you too can make the psychic connections you really want to develop.

Essential Oils are easy to get hold of these days and so very easy to use. You have the option of dabbing the oils straight onto your skin for a direct hit or, if you want to make a bottle stretch and have your room smelling wonderful, making up a spray for your pillow. Frankincense is a well known oil for helping its user raise their vibration and be more open to the spiritual realm which is an ideal boost when you want to increase your night visions or heighten your meditation time. The only catch with this one is it can be expensive although in my book, this oil is worth it for the magic it brings to the table. The higher our vibrations, the easier it is for us to connect with spirit and achieve our psychic development goals and Frankincense is THE oil to get you there.
As an added bonus, when you apply Frankincense directly onto the skin it is the best for reducing wrinkles too! If you are looking to clean up your skincare routine alongside becoming more spiritually aligned, this is the way to do it. (and a bottle lasts a very long time!)

Clary sage will calm you, relax you, and help you regulate hormones which all leads to better quality sleep and therefore, more vision time. It’s perfect as a compliment to Frankincense, or can be used on it’s own to help you drop off and stay snoozing. My friend Kristen will help you purchase your good quality oils (they have to be pure to work so stay away from the £2.99 specials!) when you check out her website with Young Living HERE.

Crystals help with just about every goal you have! Meditating with them before sleep or tucking them under your pillow will often help with dream recall which is half the battle when it comes to receiving spiritual messages at night. 2 crystals especially good for this type of work are Celestite and Herkimer diamond. Celestite is a very high vibration stone which helps it’s user connect with the angelic realm and stimulate clairvoyant abilities, whilst Herkimer diamond stimulates psychic abilities and clears any blocks which might be preventing the flow of spiritual energy.

Finally, when remembering dreams, time is of the essence! Before sleeping, say a little prayer and ask your guides to help you remember what you dream because setting intention is a huge part of being successful. Then have a pencil and notebook by your bed and write down what you remember as soon as you wake up. Even key words can help you recall when you go back to your notes at a later date.

Over time, even if you don’t get anything that makes sense straight away, you’ll slowly start to build a picture of how you dream and the types of symbols or spiritual messages you receive. Once you have this foundation you’ll be able not only to build on the information received by asking spirit for further clarification, but you’ll show your intention to communicate, which spirit will be keen to work with and will help you develop.

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Sitting in the power

I didn’t actually know sitting in the power was ‘a thing’ until a couple of months ago, but many people swear they are able to increase their mediumship abilities by practising this magical technique on a frequent basis.

Sitting in the power is a way to merge energies within you and outside of you until the space is one. It’s like taking the ultimate goosebump feeling of standing in nature in pure overwhelment of it’s perfection, allowing it to flow through you, then learning it travels outside of you and returns back so perfectly that you are not actually a separate physical form… You are just God’s perfection at one with everything.

Sitting in the power is simply sitting in this pure state and allowing it to energize and lift you as you acknowledge this beautiful energy merging within you and outside of you.

To get into this state, sit quietly in a meditation and regulate your breath. You might like some music or some candles etc if props help you reach relaxation. Then, begin by imagining a beautiful white light pulsating in the solar plexus area. Concentrate on it, and with every breath see it expanding until it fills you entirely and leaves you feeling light and full of love. Once you’re illuminated by this light, expand it to surround you as big as you’d like to go. See your light merging with the divine light outside of you until it is all one. Tune in to how it feels. (It’s awe inspiring!) With this energy surrounding you, envision it flowing within you, outside of you, and returning to you with every breath. You are not separate from this light or limited by your physical form. You ARE this light.

Sitting in the power is taking this time to embrace your spirit and the connection you have with all that is, and feeling the wonder of consciously playing with this connection to divine energy. It’s a magical practice which over time strengthens the ability to work with spirit, but it’s not the intention to connect with guidance during this exercise. (Though guides have joined me on occasion!) This practice is relaxing as well, leaving anyone who sits in the power buzzing with energy and feeling pretty good.

Do you sit in the power to boost your mediumship skills? Do you call it something different? Do you *do* something different to tap into this energy? Share in the comments!

In the meantime I hope this helps you budding mediums!

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Crystals for psychic development and more!

It’s been a while since I’ve shared what I’ve been purchasing crystal wise, but I’ve recently gone through a spell of shopping!

I tend to go through phases of crystal buying. Just lately I’ve been getting ready to do some ancestral healing so more than a handful of new crystals have been added to the collection.

These aren’t *all* going onto the ancestral grid, but these are the new crystals I’m currently working with. I’m particularly drawn to Carnelian at the moment… 🙂

Here goes!

Moonstone is my first new buy, from a beautiful little shop in Salisbury. Moonstone is said to enhance both intuition and psychic ability, as well as soothe the monthly cycle and ease period pain.

My new Shaman Quartz piece was a birthday present from my auntie who knows me so well and gifts me crystals to support whatever I’m working on. Shaman Quartz is wonderful for deepening meditation, supporting dreamwork, and heightening visualization. I’ve received some beautiful guidance with this in my presence!

Carnelian is said to boost energy, stimulate creative thinking, promote self belief, and support positive choices. I just feel good when wearing Carnelian. It’s a real feel good crystal and has eased my retrograde symptoms! (This one is also good for writers!)

Danburite is one of the new crystals going into my ancestral healing grid. It’s said to promote a higher state of consciousness, help leave the past behind, and support dreamwork.

Finally, Petalite is also going on the grid! Petalite is said to help us connect with the angelic realm, release negativity, cut chords tying us to the past, and boost positive energy.

Do any of these crystals call to you? Have you been buying something else? You’ll have to let me know in the comments!

Lots of love as always! X

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When you’re too depressed for gratitude

Last week I shared a post explaining what I do to get grateful when I’m not feeling it. I wanted to share the post because unless we’re very lucky, life isn’t mind blowingly exciting all of the time and for most of us, living in awe doesn’t come naturally.

The post was really well received and I had a lot of great feedback but I also received a message from someone who has depression and feels too low to be looking around in wonder regardless of the miracles the rest of us assure her are there. She asked me what *she* should do to feel happier and I thought it would be nice to share my answer here.

I believe self love is the best cure for anyone suffering with low moods. How we speak to ourselves and how we treat ourselves shapes our worlds, and our uncaring self habits tear us down on a daily basis and we’re not even aware of it.

Anyone who feels life is not doing it for them should look inwards first and see what they are telling themselves about their own life. Then they should find the most loving statement they can, and meditate on it daily for at least a month so that spiritual healing can begin. When we meditate with a mantra, our words either throw up what needs to be healed, or we start to feel better. I like ‘I love myself and I love the world’ as a general feel good affirmation but if you’re not there yet, try ‘I’m willing to learn to love myself’ or ‘I appreciate the strength I’m showing as I work towards feeling better’. Whatever makes you feel better is where your attention should be.

Self love mantras are not quick fixes. They are designed to lift you step by step over a period of time but they *do* work if you put effort into noticing your negative thoughts and replace them with a general but more positive statement. Consistency in using them is key but they work best when you are open to them working, so a trip to the doctor, an exercise programme, good sleep or a decent diet all might help you get to that place. Don’t struggle alone.

Alongside the mantras, taking time every day to look after YOU is a good idea. Give yourself some kindness by making space in the day for a quiet cuppa, going for a swim, or enjoying a good book. Most DEFINITELY get into the habit of praising yourself for your daily wins. Notice when you’ve done a fab job, helped someone or contributed. If something has gone well, give yourself a pat on the back.

Notice your thoughts and you’ll be in a good place to change. Are your thoughts negative? If so, your life is going to be tarnished by them.

You may not feel like challenging your thoughts straight away but if you start with thought awareness, you might just find you can begin, over time, to notice when you have been overly harsh, overly critical, or overly influenced by your current mood. You might even be able to give your thoughts over to your depression and know it’s not your true self shining through.

What are you telling yourself today? Could you find a better statement? 🙂

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What’s your spirit guide sign?

Do you want to learn to communicate with your spirit guide? Depending on what you want to get out of your connection, noticing your spirit guide’s presence can be really quite easy!

If you genuinely want to work with your spirit guides and form strong links for communication to flow, you really need to read this article on meditation and build the foundations of trust from the bottom up. The instructions in the post will help you build you a strong, solid connection which in turn will lead to enhanced spiritual growth and developed psychic and mediumship ability.

But if all you’re interested in is receiving proof you actually *have* a spirit guide, or you want a little confirmation of assistance before you put the hours of work in, consider asking your guides to send you a sign to signal their presence.

Your sign can be anything you choose, from images to songs to numbers. Blue hearts are one of my signs, as are strawberries! Then, when you’ve chosen, you just need to ask your guides to send you a visual of your image to say hello. (You make your guides aware of your request by sending a quick prayer to them.) Your sign will be shown to you in a very short amount of time, provided you keep your eyes open for it. This means staying in the moment and being present! Do you wander around caught up in the past or fretting about your future? This is your only barrier to receiving communication.

Once you’ve received your visual, you then have the opportunity to ask your spirit support team yes/no questions because they can send your sign to indicate a yes response. Taking this further, over time you might learn of something you hear, smell, see or sense when your guides are near and that’s when the connection really gets strong!

So have a go at this today! And let me know how quickly you get your confirmation of your guides presence!

I’m excited to hear your success stories, and I look forward to hearing what your sign is!

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