Category Archives: Law of attraction

Working with forgiveness

I am working towards forgiving two people in my life right now and I say working towards because I feel many of us expect miracles when it comes to forgiving. We expect to declare that it’s all forgotten, and then wonder why we’re still quietly festering and can’t let it go.

Forgiveness lightens our load, frees us, and gives us the opportunity to feel relief as light floods us. Forgiving means we aren’t wasting time feeling anger which wrecks our bodies, or taking time away from positive thoughts which could actually help us progress in life if we paid attention to what our inner guidance wants us to know.

But forgiveness isn’t an instant occurrence and in my experience, it’s a challenging thing to attempt which feels harder the closer the person is to us!

Instead, forgiveness is a choice we make. It’s a road we choose to take and like any journey, it happens step by step.

We constantly have to remind ourselves of our forgiveness choice, and let the issues heal layer by layer. It doesn’t happen overnight, but each time we come back to forgiveness, we heal a little more.

Cord cutting can help with letting issues and even people go. See my Archangel Michael post if you need guidance, Or check out Karl Gray’s book on releasing below if you need a little more. Karl Gray is the go-to angel expert, and anything he writes is awesome 🙂



If you are in the middle of trying to forgive somebody right now, please don’t stress. You’ve made the decision to try to heal this part of you, and it may just take a little time. Go easy on yourself, you are doing the best you can.

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Manifesting and mantras with mala beads!

A couple of weeks ago I bought these really pretty mala beads! Do you use them? Make them? Want a set?!


Mala beads, as well as being cute to wear, are used to focus the mind. They are typically stringed up with 108 beads, and this is significant because the number 108 is a sacred number in Hinduism, and the earth, moon and sun are all 108 times their diameter away from earth. Other spiritual groups have other things going on which are linked to the number 108, but I won’t even pretend to understand these other theories because it’s safe to say that all over the world, people believe this number is pretty magical.

Mala beads can be worn during meditation or during affirmation time, and you pretty much feed the beads one at a time through your fingers as you repeat your mantra 108 times. To get the most power from the beads, many people use the same mantra daily for 30 or 40 days so that they can reset their minds for lasting change. The practice is calming, and wearing the beads is a constant reminder of the intention to change or manifest something different. Just having them nearby can help keep you on track. (Or they help me, anyway!)

Matching the beads used to your intention is a nice way of making your mala beads a bit more special, too. Amethyst can be used for intuitive goals, citrine for success or money goals, and rose quartz for all your love desires! And if you’re not sure which crystal will help? Picking up a set with the chakra crystals on them will cover all your bases and have you sorted!

Are you currently meditating with beads? Do you have a favourite set or favourite mantra? Leave me a comment below! I’d love to know the success your beads have manifested for you!

I’ve just started with mine, but already I’m loving the extra meditation time!

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A few thoughts on manifesting

Manifesting has become a bit of a buzz word lately hasn’t it? We all want to believe in the possibility of having our hearts desires with very little effort.

I’ve been learning a lot about manifesting just recently because whilst I believe in the law of attraction and its ability to help us, I don’t think attracting happens unless you are completely open to it and ready to run with the results. This has meant I’ve started on a healing journey so I can open my heart and receive the abundance I would love.

Here’s what I’ve been learning:

Manifesting is always on whether you are choosing your manifestation or not. It isn’t something you switch on purely so you can get your hands on a new car!

Manifesting is just another word for receiving. Your success with manifesting is directly linked to what you feel worthy of receiving. And you are ALWAYS receiving something! (Is it what you want though?!)

Your subconscious mind ultimately decides whether you are successful or not. Its beliefs are formed before the age of 8 and if you don’t have positive beliefs around yourself and your ability, you will hold yourself back in some way, shape or form.

To change subconscious beliefs you must let your spirit (love) guide you rather than ego. To do this, learn to love yourself and believe you are worthy before you throw your heart into trying to bring forward what you want.

Want to know where to start with self love? This book by Louise Hay is awesome. (Book is clickable!)


I believe we have to feel deserving of what we want before it can come to us. Until we feel worthy, no number of affirmations will work, particularly if we’re anxious about the time frame we have to work in.

When we love ourselves and know without doubt we are part of an abundant universe, there is nothing we cannot experience. But the challenge is to get to this point so that we can see the results of our energy work.

Have you ever manifested a desire *without* self love being present?

Let me know your thoughts. And also what you’re manifesting next! Me? I would love an even stronger connection with spirit, more writing gigs, and more time on the Isle of Wight with the family 🙂

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What to do when life isn’t meeting your expectations

Do you ever feel as though life isn’t meeting your expectations? That life is flat, with nothing to look forward to?

Because when I feel like this, it’s because I’ve temporarily lost connection with my spirit. I’ve let chores take me away from my dreams, and I’ve let ego convince me I have to stay small and that there is no way out.

Luckily I know deep down that this is crap and that in order to get my sparkle back, I just have to turn my attention to where my ego thoughts are ruling!

If you feel life is missing something, here’s what to do and how to slowly build yourself back up again:

* Tap into your vision again. What are your goals? What does your dream life look like? This vision comes from your soul and needs to be lived if you want to feel peace. And if you don’t know where you’re going, it’s no wonder you feel lost! (If you need a reading, I am here!)
When you know your vision, take action on it. Some little steps every day will still boost you.

*Tap into your guidance. Your guides and angels will guide and heal you *if* you make space for them through daily meditation and you ask them to come through. What do you need help with? Ask spirit for support. Then trust. Don’t overthink or you’ll never let the guidance come.

*Tap into your connection with others. Find someone to help, and find someone to laugh with. We need to connect with others and feel as though we belong if we want to feel joy where we are.

*And finally, tap into the moment. Ground yourself with an affirmation, your breath, or a walk in nature. Don’t let fear of the future take you out of this moment. To feel safe you need to work with the power you have. This is always found right here in this second.

These things help me be present, but they also give me a reason to look forward to the future. They aren’t a one time fix however and this is where a lot of people go wrong! If you need to come back to this list several times a day to build the habit of connection, do it!

Only you can do the work, but you are most definitely worthy of the rewards once you get started. And once you do begin, you’ll find it easier and easier to be aware of when ego is trying to take you out!

Don’t let it!

Let your soul be your guide!

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What is my life purpose?

Do you see that subject line? It is the number one question I’m asked during readings, above even connecting with loved ones.

And the answer is really simple because there is no great life mystery we are expected to solve.

Your life’s purpose is to move towards what makes you feel good, and heal anything that comes up along the way.

That’s it.

If you know what you want already (which is what most people desire when they talk of finding purpose) then your job is to work on why you aren’t there yet, heal the blocks, and go for it.

If you *don’t* know what you want, then your purpose is to choose happiness and live in this state as frequently as possible in every way possible, healing the blocks that prevent you from doing this.

By choosing happy, you’re then working towards a state that’s open to bigger opportunity.

My guides tell me that there isn’t always one lone thing you’re supposed to find in order to feel fulfilled for the century you might be lucky enough to be here for, and that chasing fulfilment which might not be there can leave us feeling terrible. Instead, they say to live more for the joy of the moment, whilst knowing your joy might well have changed by next week anyway if you live your true purpose of allowing soul growth.

Does that help you relax the grip you have on purpose? (It’s ego holding on, not your spirit! )

What is it you want for yourself?
Are you working towards getting there?

Because if you choose happiness now, you’re working towards fulfilling your purpose of spiritual growing and learning, which means you’re right where you’re supposed to be regardless of what your outside world looks like.

If you find yourself resisting this idea consider which part of you is trying to run the show. Is it your light based spirit? Or is it your more fearful, controlling ego leading the way?

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Our Spiritual Selves

Our spiritual self is the part of us which leads us with love towards peace.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to let go of taking action because we’re scared not to, or scared of what people will think of us if we don’t do what’s expected.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop people pleasing for fear of being judged.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which wants us to stop playing small for fear of failure and yet more judgement…

Our spiritual self is the part of us which, when listened to, guides us to joy. It helps us hear our spirit guides, feel our angels, and learn of a whole new world full of love, healing and infinite possibilities.

Our spiritual self knows we are here on earth for a very short while, and have the ability to receive love from loved ones passed over.

Our spiritual self is the part of us which knows that EVERYTHING is possible for us if we will just show up with a positive attitude…

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But to gain all this we have to trust in our spiritual selves and be brave enough to live who we are. We have to stop letting ego run the show with it’s fear driven voice.

Do you know who you are?
Do you know how you want to feel?
Are you ready to receive the spiritual support our universe offers?

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Then:

*Trust that you are supported always and remember to ask your guides for help.
*Choose the fastest route to peace in each moment. Breathe! You have time.
*Take time to ask your spirit what it needs. Follow up on that!
*Follow what feels good. If it robs you of your peace, the price is too high.
*Meditate daily with the intention of connecting with spirit and nourishing your soul. Again, you have time.
*Set the intention to live connected to spirit. Don’t let ego keep you in fear. You are safe.
*Ground yourself with breath, sipping water, or being around nature. Be in this moment fully.
*Serve yourself by choosing peace and serve others by helping them get there too…

Let your spiritual self thrive!

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What’s next for you? What do you want that you haven’t let yourself have? What does that feel like? Are you ready to trust in your spirit?

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How can you serve your desires?

So tell me what’s missing in your life right now. Is it spiritual development? Career? Money? Something else entirely?

Are you done trying to force it to appear and magically transform your world?

Because what I’ve learnt from spirit in recent times is that everything is its own energetic entity, and that if we want to call it into our lives we have to ask it how we can serve it so that it can live its own purpose.

It took me a long time to really understand this concept because its so ‘out there’, but if we want to invite specific energy into our flow, whether that’s money or a change of direction, it stands to reason that we need to know what this new energy needs in order to move through us and be part of our experience because nothing can come in and merely stand still. We can only gain what we are a vibrational match for, and our desires need a purpose and a point of being with us before they can join us.

What I’ve learnt is that we serve ourselves by serving others and this applies to *all* energy, not just human interactions. We need to get comfortable with checking in with each desire and asking it how we can support it. This is a super fast way of changing our realities because our egos have to get out of the way and stop running the show! Then our spirit can lead with inspired action that feels good and actually progresses us!

Whatever it is you want to invite into your life, speak to it by either journaling or meditating, and asking during this quiet moment what your desire needs in order to flow through you. I tend to find journaling gives me the answer pretty quickly, and meditation holds space for the answer to find me as I move through the day.

What are you calling into your life? Do you know how to serve it when it comes to you?

Because if not, you’re telling spirit you’re not quite ready for it. And I’m pretty sure you don’t want to be doing that!

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Crystal infused water

Looking through my facebook feed I know that many of you crystal owners took full advantage of the full moon last weekend and set your crystals out to cleanse and absorb some of that powerful manifesting energy.

But you know what I like to do also? I like to place my crystals in some spring water and leave it out overnight, so that I might drink that manifesting energy too!

When we place crystals in water, (note; do your research as some crystals don’t like to get too wet!) our liquid infuses with the crystal energy and is then perfect for sipping with intention the next day. I like to set my healing intentions out before I drink, then thank the water for the healing it is giving me. As I sip, I imagine the water moving through my cells, clearing up whatever isn’t working for me at the time. And it seems to work wonders.

When the dog was Ill, I had bloodstone in a jug of water which I kept topping up and decanting into his bowl. Bloodstone for example is a wonderful cleanser and works well to clear infections, clean blood, and work alongside any organs that do this work for us such as our kidneys and liver. (in the interest of declaring all, he did see the vet too!)

If you’re lucky enough to already have perfect health, maybe you could consider infusing some water with abundance energy or peace energy! Blue lace agate springs to mind as a crystal that would work well for this!

Have you enjoyed success with crystal infused products? Let me know so I can try too! There seems no end to the things our crystals can do 🙂

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How to be happier

Can we talk mindfulness this week? It seems to be a buzz word we all throw around as something we ought to practice more of but don’t!

This past week I have been moving from task to task more mindfully. I have been stopping myself every few minutes to check what I’m thinking, and I’ve been amazed at what I’ve learned about myself.

Had you asked me 2 weeks ago whether I was a positive person I’d have said yes! But what I’ve learned recently is that I do most of my life on autopilot, with very little feeling of gratitude. Perhaps this is why life for me is so very often average… I have nothing to complain about but I don’t launch out of bed in excitement each morning either.

How does life look for you? Are you like me, stuck in the same rut, day in, day out? Is life pleasant enough but not all that exciting? If so, what’s missing is mindfulness and the opportunity to practice gratitude that mindfulness brings.

Every moment gives us a chance to be grateful about *something* which is happening for us. The trouble is, 99% of what we do is done without thinking. We don’t give thanks for our legs when we walk out the door. We don’t give thanks for the ease at which we can buy breakfast. We don’t give thanks for safe roads as we commute and we don’t give thanks for the hot water and cosmetics which allow us to feel good as we show up for work. We sit at a desk without feeling gratitude for the comfort of our chair and we drink coffee without feeling thankful for our tastebuds. I could go on but you get the picture I hope!

So this week I would like to challenge you to pause every 5 minutes to check what you’re thinking. Are you practicing gratitude as you should be? Because if you’re not, don’t be surprised when life feels bland.

We have opportunities at any given moment to appreciate life and if we choose not to focus on appreciating, it’s no wonder we miss the miracles. I think as you have a go at this mindfulness challenge you’ll be surprised at how frequently you forget to check your thoughts and how often the hours pass by as you ‘get on’ with things without really registering how amazing your life truly is!

Have a go at increasing your happiness by taking time to be grateful. Imagine how fab life could appear if you found something to be thankful for every five minutes… You’d struggle to find time for too many negative moments!

Just so you know, being mindful also increases your chances of noticing your intuition coming through and your guides communicating with you.

If happiness isn’t enough, that in itself makes life a bit magical doesn’t it? 😉

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Be mindful of what you’re doing… Your intuition will thank you!

Q: What do you do when you don’t know what to do?

A: You ask yourself what the next step is!

Does this sound like an obvious thing to blog about? I guess it must do on paper (or screen!) but how many of us spend hours or even days at a time not knowing where to focus? Quite a few I imagine! We live such busy lives with such a lot going on all at once that it can be very easy to become overwhelmed very quickly. The baby is sick, the toddler is having a tantrum, the dog is barking at the cat, the washing hasn’t been done and it would be dinner time if only you’d made some. Your phone is bleeping too, and you’re quite keen to know what’s going on on Facebook. It’s no wonder that we struggle through the day to day stuff feeling frazzled or bored whilst shoving our dreams on to the back burner.

Sometimes the dreams look too big, anyway, and not knowing where to start keeps us stuck in the easy mode of daily routine, which, whilst sometimes hard, is at least familiar.

Asking ourselves what our next step should be is a wonderful way of gaining clarity, easing anxiety, and soothing stress, whether we’re trying to decide how to tackle a busy schedule or where to fit in a year long project or near forgotten ambition. It gives us back a choice. If you’re choosing a new action every hour, you’re back in the driving seat and life is no longer something which is simply happening to you.

Isn’t that what we all really want? To feel as though we have options?

We only ever have our present moment to play with. Our power resides in the now, and so focusing in on more than one task is counter productive, it lessens our chances of enjoying our moment and completing tasks to the best of our ability. It leads to stress, too, and too much of that leaves us throwing our hands in the air and giving up, at least until the depression or anxiety moves in to either kick us harder or have us running around more frantically. (It’s about now we feel helpless and frustrated by our obligations)

So I’d like to suggest we all practise being more mindful. Take just the one task on at a time, and ask yourself what your next task should be once you’ve completed it. This will lead to your intuition kicking in and you may even find yourself being pulled to work on long term goals. I know myself that it’s easy to answer that call in just twenty minutes a day if you break your goal down into step by step actions.

Whether you’re looking to complete a to-do list or embark on setting up in business, repeatedly stop to ask yourself what your next step should be, then allow yourself some quiet time to hear what your guidance wants to share with you. Your spirit knows who you are and what you should be doing to feel joy and love life, but the human ego is often so caught up in achieving that we miss hearing the call.

Ever feel as though life is passing you by at the speed of lightening? Perhaps it is time to slow down and come off the auto pilot. I know I have become happier since doing so.

Have you been guided to read this post perhaps?!

Who knows, maybe your own spirit team are trying to help you change your ways… 😉

Love as always,

V X

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