It’s the summer holidays for most of us. And whilst many of us love having the children around, let’s not lie and say it’s all wonderful.
There have been plenty of moments in the last couple of weeks when I have lost patience and shouted plenty. A tired child pushing buttons and squabbling with his sibling can make for a very tense and frustrating household, particularly when the rain comes down and burning off energy becomes harder.
So where does a shouty parent fit in the spiritual bracket? Do you believe you can be spiritual if you lose your temper?!
I still reckon so!
Do we have to meditate eight hours a day channelling spirit to declare ourselves a talented, all knowing spiritualist? Do we have to sip green tea? Burn incense? Bang gongs or chant? Maintain an air of mystery and stare frequently at a candle flame whilst declaring ourselves gifted?
I reckon not! Spirituality and spiritual practises are for everyone. It’s just who you are if it’s in your heart.
So here are a few tips for keeping your spiritual groove on and keeping that special connection. ( From a self confessed shouty mum who has Paw Patrol on so there’s a bit of time to write this)
1) First off, do not buy into the idea that spiritual people can’t have an argument! We are human, with one of those ego things, and we do get it wrong, shout, get frustrated, stress and turn to the biscuit tin. It’s normal. Be ok with being less than perfect. Sometimes our arguments are valid, too. Being spiritual doesn’t mean being walked all over, and part of being a parent is setting boundaries and enforcing them. As most parents know, enforcing rules is not always met with a smile! Spiritualits are not immune to frustration.
2) Be ok with losing the plot then heading to your meditation spot to ask for guidance. Your guides will not judge you… They understand you are doing your best and they want to help you. Do you need help connecting with guides? Read this and remember that a successful spiritualist knows they get to choose again and try to be better next time. A bad morning doesn’t have to define you. 3 things you should do if you want to meet your spirit guide.
3) Don’t forget to use your spiritual tools. Lavender room scent will calm, as will the colour pink. Crystals will work to soothe your energy as well. Choose Green Aventurine or Rose Quartz are wonderful for calming energy and balancing moods. Meditate with them!
Once the kids are in bed, have a soak in the bath or sit with a good book. Take as much time out as you can.
4) Practise choosing love as much as possible. If you can, be aware when you’re stressed and choose the most loving path. Perhaps that’s taking time out for 5 minutes or ignoring your 6 year old answering back rather than engaging in a battle. You don’t have to jump on every little thing. Sometimes love is just refusing to fight back and setting an example.
5) Finally, raise your energy as much as possible and as often as possible by being playful. You have wonderful children – use them to enjoy more fun yourself! Get crafting, put S Club 7 on and tell your husband the kids wanted the CD, and go for long walks to collect sticks and stomp through the mud. Nature is calming for you and tiring for the kids. Let them wear themselves out then come home for a peaceful cuppa as the washing machine takes care of the mud. This is my favourite tip actually. I find fresh air to be the best healer!
Being spiritual and being a good parent are one and the same. You don’t learn the rules all at once and as you grow, the rules change anyway. Don’t think you’ll ever master the route fully because there’s always someone out there to learn from. Simply do your best to follow a peaceful path and if you mess up, admit it and try again. We were not put here to be perfect all of the time.
Now doesn’t that take the pressure off?
Wishing you all a lovely summer and I really hope this helps some 🙂
Lots of love as always 🙂
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