What if you feel you don’t belong?

Do you ever feel as though you don’t belong anywhere? Or that despite having people you care about around you, you don’t quite fit in with anyone in particular?

Well don’t panic! You feel this way because you remember your truth! Here is not home… the spirit realm is! We are here visiting Earth for a very short amount of time, and some of us are more sensitive to this knowledge than others!

Having said that, there are things you can do to feel more settled so that you don’t have to live in a permanent state of something missing for the next half of a decade. Grounding your energy is something you’ll forget to do at first, but is something which will decrease the ‘lost’ feeling if you stick at it.

Ready? Here goes:

1) Ground yourself often with breath work, food, sipping water, or walking barefoot in the grass or sand. All of these things help bring us back to the moment we are in.

2) Envision roots growing from under your feet as you plant yourself firmly in this energy plane. You are present and this is where you live for now.

3) Strengthen your root chakra by envisioning a red spinning disk of energy within the groin area. This will help root your energy.

4) Find your tribe and let them support you. Whatever you like doing, there’s an online group for it! You don’t have to be physically alone all of the time and laughing in particular is an amazing healer.

5) Carry grounding crystals. I like Hematite and Smoky Quartz for this.

6) Work with mantras when you find your mind floating. I adore ‘I am safe’ and ‘I am here’ to remind myself that I really only have ‘now’ to play with.

Do you struggle to belong? Do you have any more grounding tips to share?

The good news is that more of us are waking up. We might feel odd now, but odd is fast becoming the new normal!

How can you serve your desires?

So tell me what’s missing in your life right now. Is it spiritual development? Career? Money? Something else entirely?

Are you done trying to force it to appear and magically transform your world?

Because what I’ve learnt from spirit in recent times is that everything is its own energetic entity, and that if we want to call it into our lives we have to ask it how we can serve it so that it can live its own purpose.

It took me a long time to really understand this concept because its so ‘out there’, but if we want to invite specific energy into our flow, whether that’s money or a change of direction, it stands to reason that we need to know what this new energy needs in order to move through us and be part of our experience because nothing can come in and merely stand still. We can only gain what we are a vibrational match for, and our desires need a purpose and a point of being with us before they can join us.

What I’ve learnt is that we serve ourselves by serving others and this applies to *all* energy, not just human interactions. We need to get comfortable with checking in with each desire and asking it how we can support it. This is a super fast way of changing our realities because our egos have to get out of the way and stop running the show! Then our spirit can lead with inspired action that feels good and actually progresses us!

Whatever it is you want to invite into your life, speak to it by either journaling or meditating, and asking during this quiet moment what your desire needs in order to flow through you. I tend to find journaling gives me the answer pretty quickly, and meditation holds space for the answer to find me as I move through the day.

What are you calling into your life? Do you know how to serve it when it comes to you?

Because if not, you’re telling spirit you’re not quite ready for it. And I’m pretty sure you don’t want to be doing that!

Don’t let ego ruin your development

When I first started out on my mediumship journey I wanted to believe that every little bump in the night was spirit. I was desperate to be able to say that I was tuned in and developing fast so that I too could claim I was a gifted person.

I tell you this now because I get a lot of emails from people on their own development path. They tell me things have happened or that they’ve heard things, and they share with me how convinced they are that spirit is trying to catch their attention.

Of course some people really will be receiving visits from spirit! Spirit will bang doors, turn on lights, set off toys and make phones ring, and it’s good to be aware of these things! But equally, these things happen ‘just because’, and if we get caught up in believing every little sound is Great Aunt Beryl calling in for tea, we’re going to lose the ability to develop further.

If you’re here, it’s because you want to connect with spirit so in order to help you I need to say in the nicest possible way, don’t let ego tell you you are special because you’ve heard the odd noise. Instead, simply be aware of it and perhaps journal it. Then, spend some time meditating. See what your spiritual self feels about what you’re hearing. Ask your guides to give you details about who is with you and what they want. Have a go at tuning into the energy. Do you feel anything? Document it. Then connect again and ask for more. Connect again. Ask for clarification. Ask for your questions to be answered one by one…

And if you don’t get anything? Keep meditating, keep holding space for spirit, and keep trusting you *will* develop when the time is right.

Connecting to spirit takes time, as does interpreting what you’re given. Our goal here isn’t to get too excited because you’ve heard a bang, but to learn what that bang might mean. Is it simply a change in energy or temperature? Is it a loved one around? Is your guide offering you a calling card? What does it all mean to you?

One thing I’ve learned on this spiritual journey is that patience and committment are two things you can never have too much of if you want to learn how to trust what you feel.

Take your time and remain curious, and your guides will help you strengthen your connection to the spirit world.

Cord cutting with Archangel Michael

Whenever we make connections with other people, we form an attachment to them. This is obviously fine when they are loved ones who wish to see us rise to the top of the success chain, but what if we have emotional ties to people who are lower vibe than us or have little care for us?

It’s not always noticeable when ties are formed. Sometimes we *know* we can’t let go of someone because we physically feel the attachment, for example when a relationship ends yet we keep thinking of them and crying, or we’ve had an argument with somebody and we keep going over it in our minds, but quite a lot of the time we forget connections we’ve made before we’ve actually taken time to forgive the other person (or ourselves) and let go.

Do you feel tired, heavy, depressed, bored or anxious? Are you unable to move on? I find that whenever I feel like this, a good visualisation session sorts me out!

If you have the same symptoms, it might be worth calling on Archangel Michael and asking him to cut through any emotional cords you have attached to other people so that you can let go of emotions that are no longer serving you. Don’t worry about cutting cords with loved ones, you won’t damage your loving connection to them.

All you need to do to receive this healing is call on Archangel Michael and ask him to cut any ties weighing you down. As you do so it’s a good idea to envision the cords flowing from you, then imagine them being cut away by his light or his sword. As each cord is cut, allow yourself to feel relief as what’s holding you heavy is finally taken away. If you know who you need to cut ties with and can imagine them on the other end of the cord, the process will be all the more freeing but you can ask to be cut free of *anyone* who is emotionally holding you down, even those long forgotten or those you can’t put a name to.

You can even be freed from the emotional attachment to places, which is particularly useful if you’re looking to move away but are struggling to do so.


Doreen Virtue’s Chakra Cleansing book has the most clear examples of how you can use visualisation, chanting and meditation to clear your energy that I’ve found to date, with a section on cord cutting that is very easy to understand and impliment.

If you’re feeling sluggish, unwell or unable to move forwards, you might well find some cleansing helps improve your energy and mood.

Whether its cord cutting, chakra balancing or a change in diet that you need, I think this is the book which could help you feel better.

5 crystals to boost skin health

If you’ve ever seen me in real life you’ll know my beauty routine doesn’t cover much more than a good wash and a spot of mascara. But if you’re more inclined to embrace looking your best and are on the quest for flawless skin, once again the crystals have got your back!


Fluorite is one of my favourite crystals for helping to clear mindless thoughts and gain clarity, but did you know it could also help you wrinkle less? Perhaps this is because more clarity equals less stress! The Fluorite above can be purchased at Charlottes Crystal Cabin. Isn’t it stunning?

Green Selenite helps to overcome the effects of aging on the skin. I sleep with this one under my pillow as it’s also very calming.

Yellow Apatite (above) helps with cell renewal, something which keeps our skin looking fresh. It also helps dissolve cellulite, not that you have any of course! As well as these things, Yellow Apatite is also said to boost psychic abilities 🙂

Rhodonite is an emotions healer, particularly good for soothing anger and aiding with forgiveness. This in itself reduces stress which helps us to stay young, but as an added bonus, Rhodonite is also said to help lessen the appearance of scarring.


And finally Carnelian (one of my favourite uplifting crystals), is said to stimulate the metabolism to help burn unwanted fat, and is also believed to help the body absorb more of the vitamins from your diet so that you can glow with vitality. As a bonus alongside making you beautiful, Carnelian will also boost your financial abundance! The Carnelian above can also be purchased at Charlottes Crystal Cabin.

I would suggest sleeping with these crystals near your bed, wearing them in jewellery, or meditating with them to have them work for you. Some crystals such as Selenite don’t like water, so be mindful of that before making infused drinks or bathing with them.

Do you have these crystals in your collection? What do you use them for? I’d love to get the crystal chat going ♥

Smudging 101 – getting rid of negativity!

With new year rapidly heading this way, have you considered how you’ll clear any heavy or unhelpful energy from 2017 so that you can start January off with a renewed sense of purpose? If you haven’t, smudging can often provide the clean up you’re looking for! There are various herbs people use to smudge, but the most common one and the smudge stick I go for is sage.

Smudging is used on anything that needs an energy cleanse so this could be your whole house, just a room, or even yourself! All you have to do to smudge is waft the smudge stick around the edges of the area you’re cleansing, whilst intending to clear the negativity. Then afterwards, you’re free to welcome in the new with whatever ritual serves you best. (Candles, crystals, vision boards etc) Some people call on guides to help as they move around the room, but most people treat smudging as they would any other housekeeping or maintenance task and simply get on with it whilst knowing the smoke is doing its job.

There is some debate about whether windows should be open as you waft sage around. I personally like to keep them shut, smudge my intended spaces, then open them again with the intention of welcoming in new, fresh energy. (The intention to welcome fresh energy is key to feeling the difference by the way.) Sage can smell too, so this doing it this way helps prevent the scent clinging onto soft furnishings for days on end, and can prevent headaches from the smoke sticking around.

Smudging is done whenever there is energy that needs cleansing or to signify a fresh start, so it’s perfect for key dates such as new years, or key life events such as when you move into a new home or space. Smudging new spaces will stop you picking up on negativity left behind by previous people but it also helps with your own soul growth! It’s a nice thing to do as part of a spring clean or as a way of getting out of a cycle of butting heads with the people you live with.

If you’re new to smudging you’ll want to know that sage really burns and so it’s advisable to hold a plate under your smudge stick that can take heat and won’t get hot quickly otherwise you’re likely to burn yourself or your property. You’re also unlikely to use all of your smudge stick first time around so having a place to put it out and let it cool is also a good idea.

Smudge sticks can be homemade if you have the talent, or purchased from your favourite new age shop. I bought mine from Waves of inspiration in Lee on the Solent, Hampshire 🙂

Do you have a different way of cleansing your space? Let me know in the comments below. In the meantime though, happy smudging and happy cleansing!

Crystal infused water

Looking through my facebook feed I know that many of you crystal owners took full advantage of the full moon last weekend and set your crystals out to cleanse and absorb some of that powerful manifesting energy.

But you know what I like to do also? I like to place my crystals in some spring water and leave it out overnight, so that I might drink that manifesting energy too!

When we place crystals in water, (note; do your research as some crystals don’t like to get too wet!) our liquid infuses with the crystal energy and is then perfect for sipping with intention the next day. I like to set my healing intentions out before I drink, then thank the water for the healing it is giving me. As I sip, I imagine the water moving through my cells, clearing up whatever isn’t working for me at the time. And it seems to work wonders.

When the dog was Ill, I had bloodstone in a jug of water which I kept topping up and decanting into his bowl. Bloodstone for example is a wonderful cleanser and works well to clear infections, clean blood, and work alongside any organs that do this work for us such as our kidneys and liver. (in the interest of declaring all, he did see the vet too!)

If you’re lucky enough to already have perfect health, maybe you could consider infusing some water with abundance energy or peace energy! Blue lace agate springs to mind as a crystal that would work well for this!

Have you enjoyed success with crystal infused products? Let me know so I can try too! There seems no end to the things our crystals can do 🙂

Connecting to spirit with Selenite

When your crystal pals rave so hard about certain crystals, (Hollie Stark!) you know you’ve got to get your hands on them yourself! I’ve owned my beautiful Selenite for a couple of months now, but I wanted some time to really get working with it before I put up this post.

Selenite is said to be the crystal of choice for anyone wishing to raise their vibration in general. I found it to be a very soothing gem, and I credit it with calming my anxieties and smoothing over tension within myself particularly around my time of month when I generally have less patience than normal.

Selenite is said to help with opening the crown chakra, connecting with the angelic realm, seeing the bigger picture, and helping with clarity. This makes it the perfect crystal for anyone wishing to make connection with spirit, whether that’s with guides or angels. Of course you still need to put in the work, but I found that meditating with this, as well as sleeping with it under my pillow, made my connection to my guides feel a lot stronger. I could feel messages being passed through me with such certainty that the second guessing that is sometimes there during readings didn’t have a chance of tripping me up. (Being honest here, I do still question what comes through!)

As well as being beautiful, (though be careful – it does seem to chip!) Selenite is so powerfully in tune with loving source energy that it is now a perminant fixture by my bed and in my jewellery box. It takes everything you need for contacting spirit (trust, love, clarity, protection) and amplifies it to make angel and spirit connections far easier.

Don’t have a piece yet? Sign up to the your spiritual self newsletter on the top right of his post and you could win one! The draw is open worldwide, and the winner will be picked at random from all subscribers at the end of 2017. The crystal will be posted out to you in January.

Good luck!

X

Agate, Carnelian, Moldavite and Larimar.

Over the summer holidays we took a day trip to Swanage. We went mostly for the beach and the ice cream, but there is a lovely little crystal shop there called Natural Wonders which entices me in every time I visit.

On the counter as I walked in was a beautiful blue lace agate bracelet which just called to me. I initially walked past, but then went back to it. Blue lace agate is a calming crystal for me, but it also helps with self expression, particularly when it comes to fear we might have around being judged. This crystal helps heal the throat area, and is linked to the throat chakra.

Next up was a piece of moldavite. Now I know this piece is not pure due to its low price and it’s calcite description but I’m going to work with it and see what it does anyway! Pure moldavite raises vibration, enhances spiritual skills, deepens development, sharpens intuition and throws all the issues you need to address to the surface! Basically, it enhances everything!!

Carnelian was my third choice. I have some carnelian already, but the colour of this one caught my eye. Carnelian is said to aid with creativity, motivation, concentration and perception. As I’m writing this I’m thinking it might be a good crystal for a writer to work with. Carnelian is also said to boost metabolism.

Finally, I was drawn to a piece of larimar. (My second piece!) Larimar is said to be great for healing past life issues, and for enhancing spiritual growth. It is a bringer of peace and love, and is said to help its user release feelings of fear and guilt. I am using this crystal at the moment to work through soul issues I’ve carried over from previous lives.

Where is your local crystal shop? Have you purchased anything pretty lately? Let me know in the comments! X

Dreams and psychic development

One of the challenges many of us have when developing our psychic abilities is silencing our inner chatter, thoughts and noise enough for the subtle guidance to come through. Whether you want to meet your spirit guide or connect with a loved one on the other side, night time can be an easy way of sinking into that peace you need to work with.

My first experience of receiving messages from spirit was through my dreams, (NB you’ll know you’re not dreaming – the energy and visions are just too intense! ) and from there, everything really started developing.

If you are someone who struggles to remember their dreams but would really like to be able to for the messages they can bring, here are 3 tools to help you out and help you turn your dreams into part of your spiritual practice so that you too can make the psychic connections you really want to develop.

Essential Oils are easy to get hold of these days and so very easy to use. You have the option of dabbing the oils straight onto your skin for a direct hit or, if you want to make a bottle stretch and have your room smelling wonderful, making up a spray for your pillow. Frankincense is a well known oil for helping its user raise their vibration and be more open to the spiritual realm which is an ideal boost when you want to increase your night visions or heighten your meditation time. The only catch with this one is it can be expensive although in my book, this oil is worth it for the magic it brings to the table. The higher our vibrations, the easier it is for us to connect with spirit and achieve our psychic development goals and Frankincense is THE oil to get you there.
As an added bonus, when you apply Frankincense directly onto the skin it is the best for reducing wrinkles too! If you are looking to clean up your skincare routine alongside becoming more spiritually aligned, this is the way to do it. (and a bottle lasts a very long time!)

Clary sage will calm you, relax you, and help you regulate hormones which all leads to better quality sleep and therefore, more vision time. It’s perfect as a compliment to Frankincense, or can be used on it’s own to help you drop off and stay snoozing. My friend Kristen will help you purchase your good quality oils (they have to be pure to work so stay away from the £2.99 specials!) when you check out her website with Young Living HERE.

Crystals help with just about every goal you have! Meditating with them before sleep or tucking them under your pillow will often help with dream recall which is half the battle when it comes to receiving spiritual messages at night. 2 crystals especially good for this type of work are Celestite and Herkimer diamond. Celestite is a very high vibration stone which helps it’s user connect with the angelic realm and stimulate clairvoyant abilities, whilst Herkimer diamond stimulates psychic abilities and clears any blocks which might be preventing the flow of spiritual energy.

Finally, when remembering dreams, time is of the essence! Before sleeping, say a little prayer and ask your guides to help you remember what you dream because setting intention is a huge part of being successful. Then have a pencil and notebook by your bed and write down what you remember as soon as you wake up. Even key words can help you recall when you go back to your notes at a later date.

Over time, even if you don’t get anything that makes sense straight away, you’ll slowly start to build a picture of how you dream and the types of symbols or spiritual messages you receive. Once you have this foundation you’ll be able not only to build on the information received by asking spirit for further clarification, but you’ll show your intention to communicate, which spirit will be keen to work with and will help you develop.